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BlindDateConstruction•Whatisablinddate•Reasonsofblinddate•Theformsofblinddate•Threeessentialstagesofblinddate•RaidersofBlinddate•Myperceptionofblinddate•1.Asocialengagementordatewithapersonwhoonehasnotpreviouslymet.•社交或和约会一个此前从未见过的人•2.Theso-calledblinddate,isthatthematchmakermakestwostrangersdatetogether.Thisisperhapsnotabadwaytoheterosexualcontact.•所谓相亲，无非是通过红娘将素不相识的两个男女约到一起，这未尝不是接触异性的一种好方法。Indispensablerolewhenblinddate——Matchmaker•Inthewholeprocessofblinddate,theroleofmatchmaker'sgreat,butnoteverymatchmakercandobetter.Asthesayinggoes:Matchmaker'smouth,immeasurablefighting“Whetherwifewasbeautiful,dependonmatchmaker'smouth.•在相亲的整个过程中，红娘的作用很大，但并不是每个红娘都能做得好。俗话说得好：“媒人口.无量斗”媳妇美不美，全凭媒婆一张嘴ReasonsofblinddateMen’sreasons•Familyconditionsarenotverygood家庭条件不是太好•Hardwareitselfisnotinagoodcondition自身硬件条件不太好•Busywithwork工作忙•Notyoung年纪到了Women’sreasons•Hardwareitselfisnotinagoodcondition自身硬件条件不太好•Highervision眼光较高•Theirconditionsarenotgoodbutvisionsarehigh自身条件不好眼光又高•Moreambitiousorstronger比较要强或者说事业心比较较重•Theofficialformsofblinddate•1.Bytheman’sparentoraunt,aunt,etc.tocomeforward,andchosetovisitwomenathomeatsometime.Woman'sparentsusuallyletherdaughteroutofdewappearances,suchasteaandsoon.由男方父母或婶婶、姑姑等出面，择日走访女家。女方家长一般都会让女儿出来露露面，如倒茶等。•2.Thematchmakeroreldertakethemantovisitthewomanathomeforblinddate,observingthewoman,butalsoacceptingthewoman'sreview.男子本人由媒婆或尊长带着到女家相亲，在观察女方的同时，也接受女方的审视。•DatingshowsareentertainmentTVdatingrealityshowsconductedbymajorTVrecently,thesceneofwhichmostlyinmaletofemale,femalepickingmaleisgivenpriorityto,bothsidessucceedingindatinghandinhand,asforofflinewhetheryoucanwalktoarrivetogether,isunclear.相亲节目是近期各大卫视进行的电视相亲娱乐真人秀节目，大部分以现场的男选女、女选男为主，最终双方成功牵手约会成功，至于线下是否能走到一起，不得而知。YouAretheOneLoveLianliankanBlindFellowshipOnlinedating•世纪佳缘•百合网•珍爱网•爱情公寓Threeessentialstagesofblinddate•Thefirststage:Waitingaccumulationperiod.Performanceisminced,nervous.Admissionofstudentsjustlikethefirsttime,andnervous,uneasiness,guard.Secondorsubsequentre-appointmentprobabilityisnothigh,aregenerallyonelight,Sincethen,thepoliticalarena.第一阶段：观望积累期。表现是扭扭捏捏，紧张不安。就跟学生头一次入学考试一样，心里忐忑不安，七上八下，如临大敌。第二次或者以后再次约会的几率不高，一般都是“一次光”，自此，相忘于江湖。•Thesecondstage:Boldpioneeringperiod.Whentheblindbecomealifestyle,butnotjustlostsomethingmoretosee,like,itwillnotbenervous,itwillnotpickandchoose.Duringthisperiod,iftheycouldmeetalovetotalk,variousconditionscanalsocountthepeople,thenwemustseize,becauseitisattherighttimemettherightpeople.第二阶段：大胆开拓期。当相亲成为一种生活习惯，见多到不见就跟丢了东西一样时，就不会再紧张，也不会再挑挑拣拣。在这个时期，如果能遇到一个谈得来，各方面条件也算可以的人，则一定要抓住，因为这就是“在对的时间遇到了对的人”。Thethirdstage:Sitingbackandwaitingperiod.Oncemissedthebesttime,whentheblinddatefromthehabitbecomestormentagain,candoisrelyontheJudgingthePast.Sinceregretnothavinganyeffect,itisfocussedonthejob,oryourparents,right,thewaywaitingforheavenoversizedpie.Amen,blessing,onlyblessed.第三阶段：守株待兔期。一旦错过了最佳的时间，当相亲从习惯再次变成煎熬，能做的只有依靠前世的阴德了。既然后悔没有任何的效果，那就寄情于工作或孝敬父母吧，顺便等待从天而降的“超大号馅饼”。阿门，送上祝福，也只能祝福了。Modernviewsonablinddate•Eliminatedtype淘汰型•Blindisrelativelyrigidformodernstuff,somanyyoungpeoplechosetheflashofloveinthisenvironmentwheresomegirlsmayalsobebecauseofalittleriddleorbetweengirlsandgirlscalledabetandfallinlovewithaboyisnotastrangething,soselfconcludedthatonlyablinddateinsomeruralorrelativelysparsepopulationandrelativelylargeleveldifferencesbetweenregionsappear,blindandflashlovethesetwowordsdoesnotprovethatfashionthatbehindthetimes,buttheproductoftheeraofBale.相亲对于现代人来说是比较刻板的东西，以至于许多年轻人选择了“闪爱”，在这个大环境里，有的女孩也可能因为一个小小的谜语或女孩和女孩之间所谓的打赌而爱上一个男生也不是奇怪的事情，所以自我总结认为相亲只有在一些农村或者是人口相对稀疏且层次差异比较大的地区才会出现，相亲和闪爱这两个词并不能证明那个时尚那个就落伍，只是时代的产物罢了。•Accommodatetype容纳型•AsthousandsofyearsoftraditionalChineseweddingetiquette,datinghasbeenabletospreadsofar,theremustbetheimportanceofitsexistence,rationalityandvalue.Sofarcannotsaythatitisold-fashionedhistoricalremnants,norcantheirsocialfeudal,backwardequateitsexistenceandformofChinesesocietytodayarenotcontradictory.Thusitmaybealong-termpresenceinChinacontinue.••作为几千年来中国传统的婚嫁礼节，相亲之所以能流传至今，必有其存在的重要性、合理性和价值性。到目前为止都不能说它是老土的历史遗留物，也不能将其与社会封建、落后划等号，它的存在与中国当今社会形式并不矛盾。因而它可能会在中国长期的存在下去•Optimistictype乐观型•Today'ssociety,thepaceoflifeofpeopleisacceleratingandpeoplehavelessandlessleisuretimeinhissparetime.Therealityoflifecannotgivepeoplesufficienttimetolearnabouteachother,whileblinddateisundoubtedlyagoodwaytosolvetheproblemquickly.Theblindcouldbecomethetrendofcontemporary.当今社会，人们的生活节奏加快，人们在工作之余的休闲时间越来越少，现实的生活不能给予人们以充足的时间来相互了解对方，而相亲无疑是快速解决该问题的良方。相亲有可能成为当代中国人的潮流RaidersofBlinddate•NotesforMan：•1.ActiveAppointment主动预约•2.Bringmoneyorbankcards带好money或者银行卡•3.Arriveondatingsitesonschedule按时到达约会地点•4.Themanshouldgreetthewoman,theinitiativecausedtopic,adjusttheatmosphere男方应先问候女方，主动引起话题，调节气氛•5.Drinkingteaorcoffeeoramealtotaketheinitiativetopay喝完茶或咖啡或饭要主动付钱•6.Whenpartingleave,outofcourtesytosaygetalongverywell,haveachancebye!Atthesametimeofferedtosendthewomanhomeortothestation,subwaystation临别告辞时，出于礼貌要说“相处很不错，有机会再见！”同时主动提出送女方回家或者到车站、地铁站。•NotesforLady：•1.You'dbetternotbelatefortheblinddate相亲时最