4. making friends in American culture

UnitTwoText4MakingFriendsinAmericanCulturePartⅠ.Lead-in1.Ariddle•What’stheonekindofboatthatcannever,eversink?•key:afriend-ship2.Anactivity•Man’slifeisoftencomparedtoajourney.Justimagine,youhavegotsomethinginthejourney,including:money,limousine(BMW,orBenz),bighouse(villa),love,friendship,oragoodjob.thingyouchoosetoabandonis:Thefirst:________Thesecond:______Thethird:_______Theforth:_______Thefifth:________Thelast:______3.Somewordsonfriendship•Friendshipisimportantbecauseit’sbothasourceofpleasureandacomponentofgoodhealth.•1.Arealfriendisonewhowalksinwhentherestoftheworldwalksout•2.Afriendinneedisafriendindeed•3.Abestfriendissomeonewholovesyouwhenyouforgettoloveyourself•4.Alifewithoutafriendisalifewithoutasun.•5.ApoemaboutfriendshipFriendshipIsLiketheBreeze-------byTerriFanningFriendshipislikethebreeze,Youcan'tholdit,Smellit,Tasteit,Orknowwhenit'scoming,Butyoucanalwaysfeelit,Andyou'llalwaysknowit'sthere,Itmaycomeandthengo,Butyoucanknowit'llalwaysbeback.•Whensthsensational(使感动的)happenstous,sharingthehappinesswithfriendsintensifies(加强)ourjoy.•Conversely,intimesoftroubleandtension,whenourspiritsarelow,unburdening(卸下)ourworriesandfearstocompassionatefriendsandalleviates(减轻)thestress．•Asfriendshipssolidify(巩固),tiesstrengthen.Intimaterelationshipsenrichpeople’slives.PartIIHowtomakefriendsQuestion:What,doyouthink,arethequalitiesofbeingfriends?frankness,generosity,honesty,naturalness,loyaltythoughtfulness,consideration,understanding,commoninterests…•Whenyoumeetaforeignfriend,orintheEnglishCorner,orwhenyouvisityourforeignteachers,whatwillyoudoandhowshouldyoudo?•justsay“hello,howareyou,nicetomeetyou,bye-bye”???PartⅡ.TextAnalysis1.StructurePartⅠ.line1-7.thereasonPartⅡ.line8-84.conversationstrategiesPartⅢ.line85-87.conclusiongeneral--particular--generalConversationstrategiesstartaconversationyourselfbepreparedtoanswerquestionschangethetopicnaturallygivemoreinformationaskopen-endedquestionsmaketheconversationatwo-wayoneavoidinappropriatetopicsDo-sanddon’t-s•Makefirstmoveyourself,andstartaconversation;•Askquestionsandbepreparedtoanswer;•Givealittlemoreinformation;•Askopen-endedquestions(4W+how);•Makeatwo-wayconversation;it’stalk•Bepolite.•Don’twaitaroundforanAmericantotalktoyou;•Don’tskiparoundfromonetopictoanother;•Don’tjustsay“yes”;•Notclosed-endedquestions(“yes”or“no”);•Don’tonlyaskquestions;notquestion•Avoidsomequestions.Howtoaskquestions?1.Haveyoueaten?/whereareugoing?2.“whatkindofworkdoyoudo?”3.“howmuchdoyouearneverymonth?”4.“whatisyourmajor?”5.“whatisyourreligion?”6.“howoldareyou?”7.“doyouhaveagirlfriend/boyfriend?”8.“whendoyouplantogetmarried9.directlyask“what’syourname?”10.“bytheway,I’mfrom…whataboutyou?”---no----yes----no----yes----no----no----no----no---no---yesEtiquetteincommunication•1.ifyoudon’tunderstandwhatissaidtoyou,admititandpolitelyaskthepersontorepeatorexplain.Don’tpretendtounderstand.----pardon,excuseme,Ididn’tcatchit,wouldyoupleaserepeatitagain.•2.itisquitrudetoconversewithacompanioninyournativelanguageandleaveyourAmericanfriendsstandingtherefeelingstupid,becausetheymayfeelthatyouaretalkingaboutthemorsayingsthyoudon’twantthemtohear.Ifyouhavetoswitchtoyournativelanguage,atleastyoushouldtranslateforyouAmericanfriends.•3.learnsomepoliteEnglishexpressions.Forexample,thepoliteresponsetoacomplimentaboutyourlooksandworkis“thankyou”(ajoke).And,ifsomeoneasks:“howareyou?”,don’treply:“oh,doyoureallywanttoknowhowIam?let’ssitdownandIwilltellyouthatIamsosad…”,justsay:“Fine,tks.Howaboutu?”.Ifsomeonesneezes,thecorrectresponseis:“Godblessyou.”Ajoke•AnAmericanmeetsaChinesegirl:---“Oh,youaresobeautifultoday!”----“where,where”----“oh,youreyes,yournose,yourdress…”PartⅢ.ConclusionItisnotalwayseasyforChinesepeopletoknowAmericansbecauseofthelanguagebarriers,anddifferentculture,butwithsomeeffort,itispossibletoovercomethesebarriersandmakefriends.Circumstancesandpeopleareconstantlychanging.Somefriendshipslast“forever”;otherdonot.Nevertheless,friendshipisanessentialingredientinthemakingofahealthful,rewardinglife.PartⅥ.Homework•1.oralassignment:talksomethingaboutoneofyourbestfriends.(----howdidyouknoweachother;what’sthemostinterestingthingyoueverdidtogether;whyishe/shebecomeyourbestfriend.)2.Task:trytomakefriendswithyourforeignteachersandvisitthem.