跨文化交际实用教程-unit3-熊萍萍

Unit3DailyVerbalCommunication(II)2ObjectivesLearnthesocialfunctionsofcomplimentsandcomplimentresponsesLearnthedifferencesbetweenChineseandEnglishcompliments/complimentresposesLearnthedifferentexpressionsofgratitudeandapologyinEnglishandChinese3CONTENTSI.Warm-upcasesII.DetailedStudy:★Socialfunctionsofcompliments★Complimentsandcomplimentresponses★DifferencesbetweenChineseandEnglishcompliments★CommonresponseformulasofEnglishandChinesecompliments★ExpressionsofgratitudeandapologyinEnglishandChineseIII.CaseStudyIV.SummaryV.Assignments4Case1.AnInvitationtoDinnerI.Warm-upcasesQuestion:Ifyouwerethedirectorandchosentomediatethissituation,whatwouldyoudotoensurenottooffendeitherparty?HowwouldyouexplainBart’sbehaviortoManual?HowwouldyouexplainManual’stoBart?5Case2.TheCancellationoftheDinnerPartyComment:1.InNewZealand,afriendcanopenlyprovideconstructivecriticism.IfStandidnotmakesuchsuggestionstoafriendinhiscountry,thefriendwouldbeangrythatStandidnothelphimwhenhehadthechance.2.InPhilippines,apersoncannotbeafriendandacriticatthesametime,oratleastnotinpublic.Stanshouldfindsomeotherway(acceptabletotheFilipinos)tovoicehiscomments.6Case3Whyshouldtheydolikethis?Comment:1.TheBritishpeoplemaintaintheiretiquetteandsocialmannersevenwhentheyareveryexcited.2.TheFilipinocoupledidnotintroducetheirFilipinofriendtohim3.TheFilipinosweretalkingintheirownnativelanguage.NodoubttheBritishfeltleftout,whichisunacceptableandrarelyoccursonsocialoccasionsinBritain.4.Whenimmigrantsmeetinaforeigncountry,theytendtotakenonoticeoftheirsurroundings/peoplearound,whichisconsideredtoberudeandrequiresattention.7II.ComplimentsA.SocialfunctionsofcomplimentsB.ComplimentandcomplimentresponsesC.DifferencesbetweenChinesecomplimentsandEnglishcompliments(semanticformulaandsyntacticformula)D.CommonresponseformulasinEnglishandChineseE.Differentculturalassumptionsaboutcompliment8WorkingroupstodiscussthesocialfunctionsofComplimentsEg.greetingpeople,….Socialfunctionsofcompliments9OnbehalfofallyourAmericanguests,IwishtothankyoufortheincomparablehospitalityforwhichtheChinesepeoplearejustlyfamousforthroughouttheworld.Iparticularlywanttopaytribute,notonlytothosewhopreparedthemagnificentdinner,butalsotothosewhohaveprovidedthesplendidmusic.NeverhaveIheardAmericanmusicplayedbetterinaforeignland.-----byPresidentNixonatawelcomingpartyinhis1972visittoChinaQ:WhatisthesocialfunctionofNixon’scompliment?Case110(Abossmeetshisyoungfemaleemployeeinthemorning)A:Well,youlookgoodtoday.Youhavesuchniceclothes.B.Thankyou.Ihavehadthisforawhile.(Twoacquaintancesmeetinthestreet)A:Hi,Pat.Howareyoudoing?Youlooknice.B:Thanks,Anne.Sodoyou.MoreCases11A:ThanksfortheChristmaspresentyousentme.It’ssoniceandjustwhatIneeded.B:I’mgladyoulikeit.(Twofriendsdecidetomakeupafteraquarrel.Onecomestotheapartmentoftheother.)A:Hi,Mary.Howareyou?B:OK.Howareyou?A:I’mfine.(pause)B:Oh,thisvaseisreallypretty,whendidyougetit?12Socialfunctionsofcompliments1.Tocreateorreinforcesolidarity2.Togreetpeople3.Toexpressthanksorcongratulations4.Toencourageagingpeople5.Tosoftencriticism6.Tostartaconversation7.Toovercomeembarrassment13PositiveFunctionsofComplimentsIt'sagoodmannertocomplimentothers.Asincerecomplimentisalwaysawelcomeboosttosomeone’sday.Ithelpsopenupconversations,givepeoplealift,andraiseone’sself-esteem14Ittakesconfidenceandself-esteemtonoticegoodthingsaboutothersandtomakethefirstcaringmovetotellthemaboutitYou’llalsofindwhenyoustartnoticinggoodthingsaboutpeople,you’llnoticemoregoodthingsaboutyoutoo!Andthemoreyoudo,themoreyourownself-esteemwillgrow.•---RaisesYourGivingCompliments15ThinkaboutitHowoftendoyoucomplimenttheothers?Howdoyoufeelwhenyouarecomplimented?HowdoChinese/Englishspeakersrespondtocompliments?16WorkinPairstoactoutthefollowingtwocases:a.AyoungChinesewomanintheU.S.wascomplimentedbyanAmericanwomanforthelovelydressshewaswearing:“It’sexquisite.Thecolorsaresobeautiful!”Shewaspleasedbutsomewhatembarrassed.IntypicalChinesefashion,shereplied,“Oh,it’sjustanordinarydressIboughtinChina.”17b.AtareceptionatanAmericancollege,Mr.Chen,anewly-arrivedChinesescholar,waschattingwiththehostess.Asanacquaintanceofthehostessapproached,shesaid,“Ron,letmeintroduceMr.Chen,anoutstandingphysicistandoneofthenicestpeopleIknow.”Mr.Chenofferedhishandtothenewcomerbutlookedatthehostessandsaidwithasmile,“ShouldIblush,orshouldItellhimyoudon’treallymeanit?”18Discussion1.Inbothcases,whatmessageisconveyedbythewordsoftheChinese?2.Whatistheintention/implicationoftheChinese?19Discusshowyouwouldrespondinthefollowingsituationsandactthemout.a.Aforeignvisitorwaslookingatthehost’spottedflowerswithobviousadmiration.Theplantswerebloomingprofusely.Thehostremarkeddiffidently,“Growingflowersismyhobby,butI’mnotmuchgoodatit.”b.ACanadianaskedaChineseartteachertolookoveranarticlethatshehadwrittenaboutChinesepaintings.Heagreed,butaddedthat“Ireallyknowlittleaboutthesubject.”20ComplimentsandcomplimentsresponsesFishingforcompliments“Growingflowersismyhobby,butI’mnotmuchgoodatit”------“Buttheseflowersarebeautiful”“IwishIcoulddoaswell!”21Fishingforcomplimen