Americanweddingsarenotarrangedmatchesforthebenefitofeitherfamily.Acouplegetsengagedandmarriedoutofloveforeachotherandbecausetheywanttospendtherestoftheirlivestogether.Theirmarriageisacommitmenttooneanother.Whenacouplegetsengaged,theguywillgivehisfiancéeadiamondringUsuallygetsdownononekneeTheperiodbetweentheproposal(求婚)andweddingiscalledengagement(订婚)BridalShower(新娘送礼会):Backinthedayswhenweddingswerearrangedbyfamilymembers,apoorDutchmanfellinlovewithagirlwhosefatherrefusedheradowry(嫁妆).TheirfriendsshoweredherwithenoughgiftstohelpthemstartahouseholdBachelor/StagParties:Themaleequivalent(同等意义的)oftheBridalShower.Romanempiresoldierswouldfeast(款待)withtheGroomthenightbeforehisweddingtosaygoodbyetohisirresponsibledaysofbachelorhood,andtorenewtheirvowsofallegiance(忠诚)totheirfriendships.Traditionallythebride’sfamily–goesbacktotheideaofdowrywherethehusband’sfamilywilltakecareofher,sothedowrywouldgowiththebrideandhelptooffset(抵消补偿)someoftheexpensesshewillbring.Whopays?AverageCostsWhilemanygreatlyexceedit,theaveragecostofaweddingisbetween$20,000and$25,000.Industrysourcesestimatecostsat:Engagementring:$3,000to$8,000Weddingrings:$1,100to$5,000Announcementsandinvitations:$400Rehearsaldinner:$800Bride'sgownandaccessories:$1000to$5000Bridesmaids'attire:$900Groom'sattire:$200Groomsmen'sattire:$600Flowers:$850Photography&Video:$2,500Limousines:$450Clergy/Chapel:$250Reception:$8,000Music:$750-2,500Mostbrideswearalongwhitegown(礼服)andveil(面纱)Groomshouldnotseethebride’sdressbeforetheweddingTraditionally,thebrideandgroomshouldnotseeeachotheruntiltheweddingceremonyUsually,friendsandfamilyofthegroomsitononesideoftheroom,andfriendsandfamilyofthebridesitontheotherside.EntrancesGrandparents,family,andguests(亲友)Groom,bestman,andpreacher(男方和神父)Flowergirlandringbearer(花童)Brideandbride’sfather(新娘和父亲)Where?Traditionallyinachurch,buttodaycantakeplacejustaboutanywhere–home,hotel,weddingchapel(小教堂),etc.Thetraditionofthefathergivingawayhisdaughterhasitsrootsinthedaysofarrangedmarriages.Daughtersinthosetimeswereconsideredtheirfather‘sproperty.Itwasthefather’srighttogivehischildtothegroom.Todayafathergivingawayhisdaughterisasymbolofhisblessingofthemarriage.Believingnewlywedsbroughtgoodluck,guestsusedtoshowerthemwithnutsandgrainstoinsureabountifulharvest(丰收)andmanychildrentoworktheland..Thevacationafterthewedding