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Lookingforajobafteruniversity?First,getoffthesofaMorethan650,000studentsleftuniversitythissummerandmanyhavenoideaaboutthewaytogetajob.Howtoughshouldaparentbetogalvanize通电，刺激theminthesefinanciallyfraught担心的，忧虑的times?1InJuly,youlookedonasyourhandsome21-year-oldson,dressedingownandmortarboard,proudlyclutchedhishonorsdegreeforhisgraduationphoto.Thosememoriesofforkingout不情愿掏出thousandsofpoundsayearsothathecouldeatwellandgototheoddpartybegantofade.Untilnow.2Asthesummerbreakcomestoacloseandstudentsacrossthecountryprepareforthestartofanewterm,youfindthatyourgraduatesonisstillspendinghisdaysslumped掉落infrontofthetelevision,brokenonlybytexting,Facebookandvisitstothepub.Thisformerscion幼芽ofGenerationYhasmorphed改变overnightintoamemberofGeneratingGrunt.Willheevergetajob?3.Thisisthescenario情节facingthousandsoffamilies.Morethan650,000studentsleftuniversitythissummerandmostinthesefinanciallytestingtimeshavenoideawhattodonext.Parentsrevertto回复nagging;Sonsanddaughtersbecomerebelswithoutacause,awarethattheyneedtogetajob,butnotsurehow.4.JackGoodwin,fromMiddlesex,graduatedwitha2:1inpoliticsfromNottinghamthissummer.Hewalkedintotheuniversitycareersserviceandstraightbackoutagain;therewasabigqueue.Helivedwithfiveotherboysallofwhomdidthesame.Therewasnopressuretofindajob,eventhoughmostofthegirlsheknewhadaclearerplan.5.“Iappliedforajobasapoliticalresearcher,butgotturneddown,”hesays.“theywerepaying￡18,000,doesn‟tbuyyoumuchmorethanatinofbeansafterrent,buttheywantedpeoplewithexperienceormaster‟sdegrees.ThenIappliedfortheCivilServicefaststream.Ipassedtheexam,butattheinterviewstheyaccusedmeofbeing„toodetached”andtalkinginlanguagethatwas„tootechnocratic‟,whichIdidn‟tthinkpossible,butobviouslyitis.”6.Sincethenhehasspentthesummer“hiding”.HecanrecountseveralepisodesofTrafficCopsandhasseenmoredaytimetelevisionthanishealthy.Hetalkstohisfriendsabouthisaimlessdaysandfindsthatmostareinthesameboat.Onehasbeenforcedouttostackshelvesbyhisparents.Fortherestitis9-to-5“chilling”beforeheadingtothepub.Sohowaboutworkingbehindthebar,topayforthosedrinks?“Idon‟twanttodobarwork.IwenttoacomprehensiveandIworkedmybacksideofftogotoagooduniversity,whereIworkedreallyhardtogetagooddegree,”hesays.“NowI‟mbackatthesamestageasthosefriendswhodidn‟tgotouniatall,whoarepullingpintsanddoingdead-endjobs.IfeelthatI‟vecomefullcircle.”7.JacquelingGoodwin,hismother,defendshim.Sheinsiststhathehastriedtogetajob,buthavingworkedfull-timesinceleavingschoolherself,sheandherhusbandfindittrickytoadvisehimonhowtoproceed.“Ihavealwayshadtowork,”shesays.“It‟sdifficultbecausewhenyouhaveadegree,itopensnewdoorsforyou,oryou‟dliketothinkthatitdoes.”8.Althoughsheistakingasoftlinewithhersonatthemoment,sheisclearthatafteranupcomingthree-weektriptoSouthAmerica,hisholidayfromworkwillhavetoend.Hemayevenhavetopayrentandcontributetothehouseholdbills.9.“They‟vegottogrowupatsomepoint.We‟vefinishedpayingforuniversity,soalittlebitofhelpbackisgood,”shesays.“TheSouthAmericatripisthecutoffpoint.Whenhecomesbackthere‟llbeChristmasworkifnothingelse.”10.GaelLindenfield,apsychotherapistandtheauthoroftheEmotionalHealingStrategy,saysthattheGoodwinparentshavestruckexactlytherightnote.Thetransitionfromuniversitytoajobistoughforparentsandchildren:Cruciallytheymustbalancebeingpositiveandunderstandingwithnotmakinglifetoocomfortablefortheiroffspring.11“themainjobfortheparentsistobetherebecauseiftheystartadvisingthemwhattodo,thatiswhentheconflictstarts.Ifyouhavecontacts,byallmeansusethose,”shesaid.“Butalotofparentsgettoosoft.Putlimitsonhowmuchmoneyyougivethem,askthemtopayrentorcontributetothecareofthehouseorthepets.Carryonlifeasnormalanddon‟tallowthemtoabuseyourbankaccountorsapyourreservesofemotionalenergy.”12payingforcareerconsultations,trainfarestointerviewsorbooksaregoodthings;beingtoopushyisnot.Butwhileparentsshouldbewaryofbecomingtoosoft,Lindenfieldadvisesthemtotread踩sympatheticallyafterajobsetbackforafewdaysorevenweeks–dependingonthescaleoftheknock.Afterthatthesonordaughterneedstobenudged推动firmlybackintothesaddle.13boysaremorelikelytogetstuckathome.Lingenfieldbelievesthatmenareoftenbetterathelpingtheirsons,nephews,orfriends‟sonsthanaremothersandsisters.Menhaveadifferentwayofhandlingsetbacksthanwomen,shesays,sotheyneedthemalepresencetotalkitthrough.14asforbarwork,sheisapassionateadvocate:it‟sagreatantidote解毒剂tograduateapathy冷漠.Itjustdependsonhowyouapproachit.Lindenfield,whofoundherfirstjobasanaerialphotographicassistantthroughbarwork,saysitisagreatnetworkingopportunityandcertainlymorelikelytogetyouajobthanlounginginfrontoftheTV.15“Thesamegoesforshelf-stacking.Youwillbespottedifyou‟regoodatit.Ifyou‟rebrightandcheerfulandarepolitetothecustomers,you‟llsoongetmovedon.Sothinkofitasanopportunity;peoplewhoaresuccessfulinthelongrunhaveoftengotshelf-stackingstories,”shesays.16yoursonordaughtermaynotwanttofollowHollywoodstarssuchasWhoopiGoldbergintoapplyingmake-uptocorpses尸体inamortuary太平间,orguardingnuclearpowerplantslikeBruceWills,butevenBradPitthadtostandoutsideElPolloLocorestaurantchaininagiantchickensuitatonetimeinhislife.Noneofthemap