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ThePowerfulHabitsHappiness“Happinessisthemeaningandthepurposeoflife,thewholeaimandendofhumanexistence.”-AristotleThesehabitswillnotsolveallyourproblemsandmakeyouhappyallthetimefromnowon,butitcontainssomeofthepiecesthatIbelievearemostimportantforlivingahappylife.Thosepieces,orhabits,canhelpyoutofeelhappieralotmoreandhelpyoutohandlechallengesinyourlife.Buttogainthebenefitsyouhavetoimplementtheadviceconsistently.Youhavetoliveit.Habit#1:ChooseHappinessThefirstthingyoumustdoistochoosehappiness.Justlikemisery.Bothofthemareoptional.Asyouusethesetechniquesyoustarttorealizemoreandmorehowmuchyoucanaffectandchooseyourownhappiness.Justliketyingyourshoeschoosingtobehappyisaconsciouschoice.Youchooseeachdaywhatyoufocusonandhowyouinterpretyourreality.“Mostpeopleareaboutashappyastheymaketheirmindsuptobe.”AbrahamLincolnHabit#2:KeepYourFocusonWhatYouWantWhatyouthinkaboutmostofthetimeyouseearoundyouandbecome.Ifyouseetheworldandyourselfthroughalenssmudgedbynegativitythenyou’llfindmuchmisery.Ifyoulookoutwardsandinwardsthroughlensbrightenedbypositivityyou’llfindmuchtobehappyandappreciativeabout.Sobeinghappyormiserableisseldomsomuchabouttheexternalcircumstancesatthemoment.Habit#3:BeGratefulforWhatYouGotJustappreciatetheweather,yourfriendsandfamily,thefoodinfrontofyou,yourroofandcleanwater,yourawesomeshoesandthecutewo/manthatjustwalkedby.Yeah,itmightseemabitsilly.Butjustdoingthisfortwominutesreallyworkswelltoturnasourmoodintoamorepositiveandopenone.Dothiswheneveryoufeeldownorlikeyourfocusisinthewrongplace.Habit#4:UseBigandWrittengoalsBysettinggoals,writingthemdownandpostingthemonawallwhereyoucanseethemeverydayyoucankeepyourfocussteadilyonwhatyouwantinsteadofwhatyoudon’twantoutoflife.Iwouldalsorecommendsettingbiggoals,notreasonableones.Suddenly,Ifeltuncomfortablebutalsoexcited.Mymindstartedtospitoutsolutionstohelpmereachthatgoal.Happinessisnotinthemerepossessionofmoney;itliesinthejoyofachievement,inthethrillofcreativeeffort.”FranklinD.RooseveltHabit#5:AskYourselfUsefulQuestionsThisisapowerfulwaytorefocusifyousliportofindevenmoreclarityinwhatyouchoosetofocusyourtimeandenergytowards.Herearetwogreatones.1)Isthisuseful?Byaskingifsomethingisusefulyoucanstopyourselfwhileheadingdownanegativepath.Whatisawesomeaboutthissituation?Yourmindstartstoacceptthatyoucanindeedfindsomethinggoodinjustaboutanysituation.“Verylittleisneedtomakeahappylife;itisallwithinyourself,inyourwayofthinking.”MarcusAureliusHabit#6:ChooseanEnvironmentofHappinessYourenvironmenthasabiginfluenceoveryou.Youareiniteverywakinghoursoyouneedtobeproactiveandcreateanenvironmentthatsupportsyourhappinessandhabits.Beingabitruthlessandcuttingoutasmuchofthenegativeinfluencesandbusyworkmakesyourmindclear,unclutteredandfocused.Habit#7:SocializewithPeoplethatLiftYouUpSomepeopletendtodragyoudown.Somepeoplemaybekindaindifferent.Somepeopletendtoliftupyouupandsupportandmotivateyou.Focusonspendingasmuchofyourtimeasyoucanwiththethirdgroupofpeople.Itwillbeveryhardtoliveahappierlifeifthepeopleyouhangoutwiththemostalwaysarenegativeandcomplainabouteverything.Habit#8:CreateanActionHabit.Iadmit,it’snotalwayseasytotakeaction.Itcanbescaryanddifficult.Butifyoudon’ttakeactionyou’llbemissingoutonmostthings.Includingmanymoments,peopleandexperiencesthatcanbringyoualotofhappiness.Ifyoudon’tcreateahabitwhereyoutakealotofactionyouwon’tgetalotofresultsinreallife.Happypeopleplanactions,theydon’tplanresults.”DennisWaitleyHabit#9:UseaMorningRitualYousimplysetuparoutineinthemorningthatyoudoassoonasyouwakeup.Thisworkssowellbecausewhatyoudoearlyinthedayoftensetsthecontextforyourday.Ashumanswehaveastrongtendencytowanttobeconsistentwithwhatwehavedonebefore.That’sonebigreasonwhyabadstartoftenleadstoabaddayandagoodstartoftenleadstoagoodday.Twentyyearsfromnowyouwillbemoredisappointedbythethingsthatyoudidn’tdothanbytheonesyoudiddo.Sothrowoffthebowlines.Sailawayfromthesafeharbor.Catchthetradewindsinyoursails.Explore.Dream.Discover.”-MarkTwainHabit#10:DoThingsEvenIfYouDon’tFeelLikeItYourinnervoiceandfeelingscanbedisregardedifyoulike.Youcandowhateveryouwanttodoanyway.Justdoit.Themoreyougetintohabitofdoingthis,theeasieritwillbecome.Focusonandtakeresponsibilityfortheprocess,notthepotentialresults.Takeresponsibilityforshowingupanddoingyourworkout.Habit#11:BeHereNowTomorrowisn’thereyet.Yesterdayhaspassed.Nowisthepresentmoment.Andallthreeofthemarealwaysthepresentmomentwhenwearelivinginthem.Somuchtimeislostbythinkingcompulsively,overandoveragain,aboutthingswehavelittlecontrolover.Anditdistractsus-blursourvisionandshattersourfocus-andkeepsusfromfullyenjoyingwhatisreallythemostimportanttime.Now.Thesecretofhealthforbothmindandbodyisnottomournforthepast,nortoworryaboutthefuture,buttolivethepresentmomentwiselyandearnestly.”-BuddhaHabit#12:HelpandMakeOtherPeopleHappyWhenyoudotherightthingandmakepeoplehappyyoufeelgoodaboutyourself.Whenyoumakesomeoneelsehappyyoucansense,see,feelandhearit.Andthathappyfeelingflowsbacktoyou.AndsincetheLawofReciprocityisstrongthereisanotherupside.Peoplewillfeellikegivingbacktoyou.Sofocusongivinghappinessinste