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AreviewofDearAndreasItisuniversallyacknowledgedthatasonisdefinitelytheirparents’sonbutnot“otherperson”andhehassomespecialandsubtlerelationshipwiththeirparents.Afterreadingabook,namedDearAndreas,whichisformedinanovelway,completewithlettersbetweenason,Andreas,personofmixedrace,whoeverlivedinTaiwanandnowlivesinGermanyandhismother,LongYingtai,awriter,ratherthanarticleswrittenbyonlyonepersonbetweenthem.WhenAndreaswas14yearsold,hismotherleftEuropeforthenorthofTaiwantotakeupherjob.Withtimegoingby,Andreasbecameanadultashismotherquitherjobandwentbacktohim.However,whatupsethismothermostwasthatshehadfoundthereshouldbeinvisiblewallswhichseparatedherfromherdearson.Sherealizedthathissonjust“loved”herratherthan“liked”her.Afteralltheyhadanumberofdifferentthingsandhadlivedseparatelyontheirown.Thenshemadeuphermindtorecognize“thestranger”again.Therefore,theyhadbeencorrespondingwitheachotherforthreeyears.Inthisway,theymutuallypenetratedintotheirheartsandrecognizedtheother.Thebookcontainsthirty-sixletters,aimingatbridgingthegenerationgap,discussingtheopinionsofthenewandtheold,theLeftandtheRight,thepopularcultureandthehumanitiesandall.Itexpressesthetwodifferentgenerations’values.Accordingtoit,themothersharedherpreviouslife,thesmallfishingvillage,whereshegrewup,locatedinthesouthofTaiwanandthelivingenvironment,whichwaslackofnewandnovelthingsandsoforth.ThesontoldhismotherhowtodefendhislovingsandhowtodoasaGermanandsoon.Astojustice,reasonandcivilization,itpresentedmewithanover-generationbond.Intheseletters,Andreaseversaid:“MM,youjusthaveregardedmeasalittleboy.Youcan’tcompletelyrealizethatIhavebeenanadult.Despitethefactthatyouhavesetmefree,youonlytoconsiderthefreedomyougavemeasyourauthority.YouhaveneverseenitastherightsIdeserveallthetimesinceIwasborn.Thatistosaythatyouhavedifficultygettingitthatyoursonisnotyoursonbuttheotherpersonwhoisfullyindependentofyou.”Ibegintothinkaboutwhatthebondbetweenachildandhisorherparentsis?Itislikelytoreshapemypreviousvaluesandworldview.WhatrelationshipbetweenmyparentsandIisonearth?AsfarasIamconcerned,themajorityofparentsinChinaprobablythinkthewesternandopeningeducationmethodsarebetterthanoursatpresent.Whatisoptimisticisthattheyalsoregardtheirchildrenastheindividuals.Onthecontrary,theyseldomputitintopractice.What’sworse,theyareunabletodrainthetraditionalpartsoftheirbloodtoimprovethepresence.Instead,theyexpecttheirchildrenaresupposedtocomplywiththeexactorder,respectandrelyonthem.Asamatteroffact,Chineseparentsarerestrictedtoaconventionalcirclethatrejectsthenewthings,especiallytheWolfDadandtheTigerMother.Furthermore,Ireckonthatwe,asforadults,needourspaceandfreedomtoworkoutwhatweshoulddoandaccomplishwhatwedesire,notrestrainedbyourparentsandothers.Onthemeanwhile,thesociety,whichwelivein,oughttobewillingtobuildabetterenvironmenttohelpustoachieveourdreams.Therights,towhichareattachedimportance,aretobecomethereasonswhywehavefreedomandownthoughts.（经句酷批改网批改得分89.5分）