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Unit1PartI-A87,80,53,48,24,17Script:ThePorterFamilyMrWilliamPorterisveryold.Heis87.AndMrsCatherinePorteris80.MrPorterisfromWales.JohnPorterandMaryarebrotherandsister.JohnPorteris53andheisalawyer.HiswifeSusanis48,andsheisanarchitect.JamesPorterandJoanLeearecousins.JamesPorteris24andJoanLeeis17.PartI-B1.spendingspecialtimetogether.2.specific,complain,request,praise.3.fatigue,insecurities,foxhole,strikingout,protect.4.distant5.allmarriages,Worktogetherounderstand6.Respect,danger,professional,physical,verbal7.Understand,winPartI-C40,excel,domesticargument,losingwin-win,lose-lose,win,agift,returnsargueover,aren't,who,incontrol,fear,didn'tneed,oughtnotto,couldn't,triedto,destroy,marriagelove,loved,secure,discover,garden,cultivate,themostprecious,ownself,bloom.obtain,ourpartner,lovedandrespected,control.PartII-AA21.similarsocialbackgrounds.2.thesameraceorsameethnicbackground.3.thesamereligion.A3Japan/9.2%/arrangedmarriages3%/betweenblacksandwhitesManypeopleinWesterncultureschoosetheirownwivesandhusbands.Inmanyothercountries,spouseareoftenchosenbytheparents.InChinaandJapanbeforethiscentury(20thcentury),upper-classmarriageswerearrangedbytheoldermales.InmanyculturesintheMiddleEast,Asia,andpre-industrialEurope,theman'sfamilynegotiatedabridepricewiththewoman'sfamily;theman'sfamilywasexpectedtopayit.InHinduIndia,thebride'sfamilypaidagroom'spricetothefamilyoftheman.Thesecustomsareweakening;forintance,only9.2percentofJapanesemarriagesarenowarranged.Whatarethecriteriaforchoosingmates?Mostmarriages-whetherarrangedbyfamiliesoroccurringfrompersonalattractionorlove--arebasedonsimilarsocialbackgrounds.Inotherwords,themanandthewomancomefromthesamesocialclass(orelseaclassthatisonlyslightlyhigherorslightlower).AmongmanypeopleinEgypt,keymembersoftheman'sfamilymustgotothefamilyofthewomanandproposemarriage.Thesefamilymembersmustbeabletoshowthattheman'sfamilyisatleastofthesamesocialclassasthewomanandthatacertainamountofmoneyexiststoallowthemarriagetogoforward.Havingthesameraceorthesameethnicbackgroundisthesecondmaincriterionformarriagethroughouttheworld.IntheU.S,.Wheretherearemanydifferentraces,only3percentofallmarriagesarebetweenblacksandwhites,meaningthattheracesarestilllargelyseparateinmarriage.Inmanycountries,marriageisalsobasedonthewomanandmanhavingthesamereligion;thisisathirdcommoncriterionforchoosingamate.Incultureinwhichreligionisverystrongvalue,marriageswouldoftennottakeplaceiftherewerereligiousdifferences.PartII-B1.physicalappearance;2.whatsomebodylookslike,.....,lookbeyondthephysicalappearance3.thehighpercentageofdivorces.4.fallinglovewithsomebody,.....,lovingsomebodyScript:Whatdoyouthinkitisthatattractspeopletoeachother,thatmakespeoplewanttobetogether?Ithinkthatperhapsunfortunatelyintheinitialstagesit'sthephysicalappearancethatattracts.Ithinkunlessyoufindsomebodyattractive,unlessthere'ssomethingaboutthem-itcouldonlyperhapsbethewaytheysmileortheylaugh,oratwinkleintheireye,orthewayofacurlfallsovertheirforehead.Butsomethinglikethathastomakeyouinterestedenoughtofindoutmoreaboutthatperson,unlessthat'sthereIthinkyoujustdon'tbother.SoinitiallyphysicalattractionIthinkisallimportant.Whydoyousayunfortunately?Becauseinfactitshouldn'tbewhatsomebodylookslikethatisimportant.Youshouldbeabletolookbeyondhephysicalappearanceandseewhatsortofapersonheorsheis,whethertheyareselfishorselfless,whethertheyarekind,caring.ButIthinkinitiallyyouarenotbotheredwiththat.Thatcomeperhapslater.Inpopsongsandmagazinesandnewspapersandsonon,theideaoffallingloveinsalwaysemphasized,sopeoplehavethisideathatyouhavetofallinlove.Doyouthinkthisismisleadingforpeople?Doyouthinkpeopleexpectsomethingthatinfactdoesn'texist?Yes,Ido.InfactIthinkwecanprobablylaytheblameforthehighpercentageofdivorce--it'sathirdIthinknow,isn'tit?Ithinkoneinthreepeoplegetdivorced.ProbablyasfarasIcanseeit,thereasonisthattheygointomarriageorintoarelationshipwithaveryromanticviewoflovewhichIthinkhasbeencreatedbythepopsongs,byallthelovestores,bytheBarbaraCartlandnovels,etc.,thatyoungpeopleread.Really,youmeetsomeone,youfallinlove,andthat'sit.,it'sthebeginning,theylivehappilyevenafter.AndIthinkthat'stheproblem,becausepeoplejustexpectthat,andit'snotlikethat.Sowhatisit,doyouthink,thatreallysustainsarelationship,thatkeepsarelationshipgoing?Well,Ithinkyouhavetodifferentiatebetweenfallinginlovewithsomebody,whichIseeasmoresuperficial,andlovingsomebody,whichIseeasadeeperemotionandonethatperhapslasts.Fallinginloveissuperficialattraction,beingattractedtosomebodyphysically,havingfuntogether,whereaslovingsomebodyIthinkisanemotionthatgrows,itcomeswithsharedexperiences,perhapsenjoyingdoingthesamethingstogether,sharedhobbies,sharedinterests,sufferingtogetheraswell,goingthroughthebadtimes,helpingeachother,supportingeachother.Ithinkallthatneedstimetogrow,andI'dcallthatlove,andIthinkthat'swhatmakesarelationshiplast.PartII-Coneofthebiggestdecisionstheywillmakeinlife,asthejust-rightwifeforhim,definitionofwhatthejust-rightwifeis,themillionairemanandthepoorman,herphysicalqualities,differentwords,byherphysicalqualities,int