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MenAreDifferentfromWomeninManyWaysInthemodernage,menandwomenhavemanydifferences.Andmanyoftheirbehaviorperformanceisnotthesame,forexampleintheexpressionsoflove,dealingwithquestions,thelanguagecommunicationabilityandsoonwayFirstly,Menfeeltheyarelovedwhenneeded,butforwomen,theyfeelthatwhencherished.Sinceman’ssenseofselfisdefinedthroughhissuccessandaccomplishment,theyexpresstheirlovebygivingpresents.Thelevelsofloveareproportionaltothepresents’values.Incontrast,awoman’ssenseofselfisdefinedthroughherfeelingsandthequalityofherrelationships.Theyexpresstheirlovebysharingandtheyempathizeontheiremotions.Ifmenandwomendonotunderstandeachother,argumentsmayberesulted.Forexample,awomanlikestosharewithherhusbandwhensheisupsetandshethinksitisawaytoexpressherlove.However,ifamanmisinterpretedandsoheempathizesongivingsolutionsorchangeherviewduetothehopetobe‘useful’and‘needed’,despitethehardworkinvolved,hewillbeupsetbythenegativeresponsefromher.Therearemanyexamplesinthisbooktoexplainthispoint.Atthismoment,menshouldlistenpatientlytolethispartnerknowsheisbeingcaredandloved.Secondly,Becauseofdifferentselfdefinitions,menliketosolveproblemsalonebutwomenareopposite.Mendonotlikeunsolicitedadvicefromotherssincetheythinktheymustbe‘useful’.However,womenthinkthatsharingtheirproblemscansolvetheproblems,sotheyarestrangeabouttherejectionofadviceformen.Forexample,ifamangetslost,hedoesnotwanthispartnertogivehimadvice,buthewantstodohisbesttoachievethegoal.Thisgiveshimsenseofachievement.Inthisbook,theauthorempathizesonthispointinvariouschapters.Itisoneofthemostimportantpointsinmaintainingagoodrelationshipbetweenbothsexes.Thelastbutnotleast,Tofullyexpresstheirfeelings,womenassumepoeticlicenseandusevarioussuperlatives,metaphorsandgeneralizations.Theyusuallyuseextremewordstoexpresstheirfeelings.However,menmayanalyzethewordslogicallyandsotheymaymisinterpretwhatwomensay.Duetothemisunderstanding,conflictsmayberesulted.Inthisbook,itprovidesa‘Translationdictionary’tohelpcouplesunderstandtheirdifferentlanguages.Overall,menandwomenhavedistinctiontohaveconnectionagainalready,areinseparablewhole,theymakeupahome.So,theyshouldbemoreefforttoplaytheirownability,creatingabetterhouse.