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SlidepresentationbyKenduPisanieWrittenbyStephenR.CoveyYou’reGoingtobe“OffTrack”90%oftheTime.SoWhat?Goodfamilies–evengreatfamilies–areofftrack90%ofthetime.Thekeyisthattheyhaveasenseofdestination.Theyknowwhatthe“track”lookslike.Andtheykeepcomingbacktoittimeandtimeagain.Thekeyisinhavingadestination,aflightplan,andacompass.Investthenextfewminutesinthispresentation,andyouwillbegiventhemostvaluabletoolsevertofindyourdestinationforyourfamily.Havetheendinmind:ABeautifulFamilyCultureHABIT1BEPROACTIVEWedonothavetolove.Wechoosetolove.Todocarefullyandconstantlyandkindlymanylittlethingsisnotalittlething.Thewayyoutreatanyrelationshipinthefamilywilleventuallyaffecteveryrelationshipinthefamily.HABIT2BEGINWITHTHEENDINMINDCreateaclear,compellingvisionofwhatyouandyourfamilyareallabout.Afamilymissionstatementisacombined,unifiedexpressionfromallfamilymembersofwhatyourfamilyisallaboutandtheprinciplesyouchoosetogovernyourfamilylife.Forthemostpart,familiesdon’thavethekindofmissionstatementsocriticaltoorganizationalsuccess.Yetthefamilyisthemostimportant,fundamentalorganizationintheworld.Throughafamilymissionstatementyoucanletyourchildrenknowthatyouaretotallycommittedtothem,andthatyouhavebeenfromtheverymomentoftheirbirthoradoption.HABIT3PUTFIRSTTHINGSFIRSTMakingFamilyaPriorityinaTurbulentWorld“Okay,now,Iknowwhatyou’regoingtohearfrompeopleis“Wedon’thavethetime.Butifyoudon’thavethetimeforonenightoratleastonehourduringtheweekwhereeverybodycancometogetherasafamily,thenthefamilyisnotthepriority.”~OprahWinfrey~Thingswhichmatterthemostmustneverbeatthemercyofthingswhichmatterleast.Theplacetostartisnotwiththeassumptionthatworkisnon-negotiable;it’swiththeassumptionthatfamilyisnon-negotiable.Thatoneshiftofmind-setopensthedoortoallkindsofcreativepossibilities.Theroleofparentsisauniqueone,asacredstewardshipinlife.Istherereallyanythingthatwouldoutweightheimportanceoffulfillingthatstewardshipwell?HABIT4THINK“WIN~WIN”Movingfrom“Me”to“We”Thequestionisthis:“Wouldyoubewillingtosearchforasolutionthatisbetterthanwhateitherofusisnowproposing?”Thecommitmentisthis:“Letmelistentoyoufirst”or“Helpmeunderstand.”Theprincipleisthis:Whatisimportanttoanotherpersonmustbeasimportanttoyouastheotherpersonistoyou.Parentingisnotaboutbeingpopularandgivingintoeverychild’swhimanddesire.It’saboutmakingdecisionsthattrulyarewin-win–howevertheymayappeartothechildatthetime.HABIT5SEEKFIRSTTOUNDERSTAND…THENTOBEUNDERSTOODSolvingfamilyproblemsthroughemphaticcommunicationThere’snowaytohaverich,rewardingfamilyrelationshipswithoutrealunderstandingMostmistakeswithfamilymembersarenottheresultofbadintent.It’sjustthatwereallydon’tunderstand.Wedon’tseeclearlyintooneanother’shearts.Whenyouunderstand…Youdon’tjudge.Eachpersonneedstobelovedinhisorherownspecialway.Theykeytomakingdeposits,therefore,istounderstand–andtospeak–thatperson’slanguageofloveThetechniqueofemphaticlisteningisjustthetipoftheiceberg.Thegreatmassoftheicebergisadeepandsinceredesiretotrulyunderstand.HABIT6SYNERGIZEBuildingfamilyunitythroughcelebratingdifferencesYoumustbeabletosaysincerely,“Thefactthatweseethingsdifferentlyisastrength–notaweakness–inourrelationship.Onceyourealizethateachproblemisaskingforaresponseinsteadofjusttriggeringareaction,youstarttolearn.Youbecomealearningfamily.HABIT7SHARPENTHESAWRenewingthefamilyspiritthroughtraditionsEveryfamilymusttaketimetorenewitselfinthefourkeyareasoflife:physical,social,mental,andspiritual.Ifyouorganizeyourfamilylifetospendtenorfifteenminutesamorningreadingsomethingthatconnectsyoutotimelessprinciples,youwillmakebetterchoicesduringtheday–inthefamily,onthejob,ineverydimensionoflife.SharpeningthesawisthehighestleverageactivityinlifebecauseitaffectseverythingelsesopowerfullyFromSurvival…Tostability…ToSuccess…ToSignificanceIdon’tknowwhatyourdestinywillbe,butonethingIknow:Theonlyonesamongyouwhowillreallybehappyarethosewhohavesoughtandfoundhowtoserve.~AlbertSchweitzer~ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS&CREDITSThe7HabitsofHighlyEffectiveFamiliesbyStephenR.Covey1998Simon&SchusterUKLtd.(London)SlidepresentationbyKenduPisanie