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2-02Controlisextraordinarythetacticspeopleemploytoobtainit,somerelyondeception,whileothersengageinoutrighttrickery,thentherethosewhowereresorttoextortion.Whydowefightsohardforcontrol?Becauseweknowtoloseit'stoputourfateinthehandsofothers,andwhatcouldbemoredangerous?人们为了获得支配权会使用各种策略，有些人靠欺骗，有些人靠哄骗，还有些人诉诸敲诈。为什么我们这么拼命要得到支配权呢？因为我们知道一旦失去它我们就会被别人所掌控，还有什么比这更危险呢？2-03Everyoneenjoysthegameofmake-believenowandthen,ofcoursethewaysinwhichweplayvarygreatly,sometimeswetellourselvesworkwon'tinterferewithourfamilylife.Sometimesweimaginecertainrelationshipstobemoremeaningfulthantheyreallyare.Occasionally,weputonashowasiftoconvinceourselvesoursecretsarereallyallthatterrible.Yes,thegameofmake-believeisasimpleone.Youstartbylyingtoyourself,andifyoucangetotherstobelievethoselies,youwin.人们都喜欢偶尔自欺欺人一下，当然每个人的方法各不相同。有的人告诉自己不会因家庭耽误了工作；有的人喜欢想象一段比实际更有意义的生活。有时，我们制造假象，说服自己我们的秘密并没有那么糟糕。是的，自欺欺人很容易。由欺骗自己开始，如果别人也相信你的话，恭喜你，你赢了！2-04Theworldisfilledwithgoodfathers,howdowerecognizethem?They'retheoneswhoaremissedsoterriblythateverythingfallsapartintheirabsence;they'retheoneswholoveuslongbeforewe'veevenarrived;they'retheoneswhocomelookingforuswhenwecan'tfindourwayhome.Yes,theworldisfilledwithgoodfathers.Andthebestaretheonewhomakethewomenintheirlives...feellikegoodmothers.世界上到处都有好爸爸，但是怎么辨别他们呢？如果他们不在身边我们会感到伤心欲绝，痛苦无比；他们在我们降生之前就深爱着我们；他们在我们迷路的时候带领我们回家。的确，世界上到处都有好爸爸。不过最好的父亲是那些能让妻子觉得自己是最好的母亲的人。2-05Everyoneintheworldneedssomeonetheycandependon,betheyfaithfulfriends,determinedadvocates,oralovingfamily.Butoccasionallyinlife,thepeoplewethoughtwouldalwaysbethereforus...leave,andifthathappens,it'samazingthelengthwewillgotogetthemback.每个人都需要有人依靠，做最忠诚的朋友，做自己的决定激励者，或者组成家庭。但有时我们认为一直会陪伴我们的人――也会离开我们。当这发生的时候把他们找回来的路异常艰难。2-06Yes,everylittlegirldreamsofabigwhitewedding,butsomedreamsjustdon'tcometrue.是的，每个小女孩都梦想拥有盛大的白色婚礼，但是有些梦想就是不能成真。2-07Yes,camerasaretoolsdesignedtocaptureimages.Butintruththeycancapturesomuchmore.Theycanuncoverhiddenlongingofmanwhoshouldnolongercare;theycanrevealtheextraordinarysecretsofthemostordinarymarriages.Mostamazingofall,camerascanquietlyandclearlyrevealtousourdreams,dreamswedidn'tevenknowwehad.是的，相机是用来捕捉画面的。但实际上他们可以捕捉到更多。它们能揭露不该去关心的男人隐藏着的渴望；它们能揭露平凡婚姻中的不寻常秘密。最有趣的是，相机能无声无息的告诉我们不曾知晓的梦想。2-08Inaworldfilledwithdarkness,weallneedsomekindoflight,whetherit'sagreatflamethatshowsushowtowinbackwhatwe'velost,orapowerfulbeaconintendedtoscareawaypotentialmonsters,orafewglowingbulbsthatrevealtousthehiddentruthofourpast.Weallneedsomethingtohelpusgetthroughthenight,evenifit'sjustthetiniestglimmerofhope.在充满黑暗的世界里，我们都需要一些光明。它可以是指导我们挽回失去的东西的一束火焰；也可以是驱除潜在的恶魔的灯塔；或者是照亮我们隐藏真相的灯泡。我们都需要能让我们撑过黑夜的东西，哪怕是最微弱的希望光芒。2-09It'snotalwaysthateasytodistinguishthegoodguysfromthebadguys,sinnerscansurpriseyou,andthesameistrueforsaints.Whydowetrytodefinepeoplearesimplygoodorsimplyevil,becausenoonewantstoadmitthatcompassionandcrueltycanlivesidebysideinoneheart,andthatanyoneiscapableofanything.分清好人和坏人并不是一件容易的事。罪人总让我们大吃一惊，不过圣人也是一样。为什么总简单的把人定义为好或坏呢？因为没有人愿意承认同情和残忍会肩并肩的呆在一个身体里面；当然，也不会承认他们可以做任何事情。2-10Thestoriesareasoldastimeitself,theprodigalsonwhoreturnshometothefatherwhoforgiveshim,thejealouswifewhotricksthehusbandwhotrusther,thedesperatemotherwhoriskseverythingforthechildwhoneedsher,andthefaithlesshusbandwhohurtsthewifewholoveshimsodeeply.Whydowelistenagainandagain,becausethesearethestoriesoffamily,andoncewelookpast,thefighting,pain,andresentment,weoccasionallyliketoremindourselves-there'sabsolutelynothingmoreimportant.故事依旧是那个古老的故事。浪子回头金不换，善父宽容抛前嫌，欲妻讹夫骗信任，慈母护子为哪般，为父不忠留妻绝，为何故事一遍又一遍，只因事关一家人。蓦然回首，须自省，家为首。2-11Theactitselfnevervaries,buteachkisscarrieswithitameaningallitsown.Itcanconveyahusband'seternaldevotionorwife'senormousregret.Itcansymbolizeamother'sgrowingconcernorlover'sgrowingpassion.Butwhateveritsmeaning,eachkissreflectsabasichumanneed.Theneedtoconnecttoanotherhumanbeing,thisdesireissostrong.It'salwaysamazingwhensomepeopledon'tunderstandit.动作是千篇一律的，但每个吻带着各自的含义。他能传达丈夫永久的专一，或妻子莫大的懊悔，它象征母亲日益剧增的担心，或情人的无限的激情。但他无论象征着什么，每个吻，反映了人们最基本的一种需求，与另一个心灵的沟通，这种需求如此强烈，他令人惊讶不已，特别是在哪些，不理解他的人眼里。2-12Illnessescantakeonmanyforms,thoseofthebodyareeasytotreat,muchmoredifficult,arethehiddenmaladiesthatfesterinourhearts,thesecretaddictionsthatconsumeoursouls.Andthediseaseswedenywhichaffectourjudgment.Tosurviveweneedtofindthatspecialsomeonewhocanhealus...Butwecanneverpredictwhowillhavethecureforwhatailsusorwhenthey'llshowup.疾病有很多形式，生理上的比较容易治疗，困难的是心灵深处的伤痛。不为人知的迷恋侵蚀着我们的灵魂，放弃治疗让我们失去判断。要想生存我们要找到特殊的人来治愈我们…但是我们永远不能预知谁能够拯救我们，或他们什么时候出现。2-13Everyoneunderstandsthenatureofwar,wealsounderstandthatvictorydependsonthecardsthatwehavebeendealt.Somewhenfacedwithabloodybattlesimplygivein,butforsomesurrenderisunacceptable,eventhoughtheyknowitwouldbeafighttothedeath.每个人都清楚战争的本性，我们也知道胜利取决于我们打出的那些牌。有些人在面对血战会从容放弃；但是对某些人来说投降是无法接受的，尽管他们清楚面前的是决一死战。2-14Theworldisfilledwithunlikelyfriendships.Howdidtheybegin,withonepersondesperatelyinneedandanotherwillingtolendahelpinghand.Whensuchkindnessisoffered,wearefinallyabletoseetheworthofthosewehavepreviouslywrittenoff,andbeforewe'veknownit,abondhasformed,regardlessofwhetherotherscanunderstandit.Yes,unlik