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C:respecttotheagedManycodesofbehaviorrevolvearoundyoungpeopleshowingrespecttoolderpeople.Youngerpeopleareexpectedtodefertoolderpeople,letthemspeakfirst,sitdownafterthemandnotcontradictthem.Sometimewhenanolderpersonentersaroom,everyonestands.Peopleareoftenintroducedfromoldesttoyoungest.Sometimespeoplegoouttheirwaytoopendoorsforolderpeopleandnotcrosstheirlegsinfrontofthem.C:respecttotheagedWhenofferingabookorpapertosomeoneolderthanyou,youshouldshowrespectbyusingtwohandstopresenttheobject.Onacrowdedsubwayorbus,youshouldgiveupyourseattoanelderlyperson.C:respectincontact-mannersChineseconsideritrudetolooksomeonedirectlyintheeye,crossyourarmsorlegs,orhaveyourhandsinyourpocketwhenyouarespeakingtosomeone.Chineseusuallyfocustheireyesonthelowerneckofthepersontheyaretalkingto,standveryclosetothem,andtrytoavoidstaring.C:respectincontactDon'tpointoruseyourfingertobeckonsomeone(thisgestureisusedfordogs).Togetsomeone'sattentionandtellthemto“comehere”placeyourpalmdownandmoveyourfingerstowardsyou.Thisgestureisusedwithchildren,taxisorwaitersbutisconsideredveryrudewhendirectedatanolderperson.Themostpolitewaytoattractsomeone'sattentionistomakeeyecontactandbowslightly.C:respectincontactChinesealsodon'tlikeitwhenWesternerspointatpeople;wearstrongcolognesorperfumes;puttheirfeetorsitondesks;don'tusetitlesorshowproperrespecttoeldersandsuperiors;boastandoffertheiropinionstooreadily;wantimmediateanswers;andshowalackofpatience.C:respectincontact-theavoidanceofdirectnoChineseconsideritrudetosaynodirectly.Theyoftensaysomethinglikemaybe,Iambusy,orevenyeswhentheyreallymeanno,orconveyanoanswerinwaythatforeignersdon'tunderstand.ThisbehaviorsometimescausesconfusionwithWesternerswholikeayes-or-noanswer,andwhotendtobelievethereisapossibilityofayesunlesstheyaretoldnostraightout.Chineseconsideritrude,kindofmeanandtoodirecttosayno.C:respectincontact-playingdownTheChinesepeopleareinclinedtoplaydownthemselvesasawaytoshowrespecttoothers.自愧不如自惭形秽班门弄斧望尘莫及蓬荜生辉抛砖引玉C:respectincontact-playingdownSelfdeprecationorsayingtheoppositeofthecomplimentistrue.IfyousayayounggirliscuteitisnotunusualforChinesetosaysheisugly.Ifyousayamealisgood,theywillsaysomethingdidn’tturnoutright.C:respectincontact-eyecontactChineseconsideritrudetolooksomeonedirectlyintheeye,crossyourarmsorlegs,orhaveyourhandsinyourpocketwhenyouarespeakingtosomeone.Chineseusuallyfocustheireyesonthelowerneckofthepersontheyaretalkingto,standveryclosetothem,andtrytoavoidstaring.C:respectindrinkingmannersC:respectinancienttimesandspecialtimesInimperialtimes,visitorstotheemperorwereexpectedtodroptothefloorandknocktheirforeheadsonthefloorninetimestoshowrespect.SuchkowtowinggesturesarestilldisplayedwhenChineseworshipattemples.Kowtowingisapowerfulgesturereservedmainlyforhonoringthedeadorofferingdeeprespectatatemple.IntheCulturalRevolutionasatoolofhumiliationagainstthosewhocommittedpoliticalcrimes.”C:respectinshakinghandsTheChinesehavetraditionallynotbeenbighandshakersbutthecustomisnowwidelypracticedamongmen,especiallywhengreetingWesternersandotherforeigners.SometimesChineseshakefortoolongforWesterntastesandhavealimpratherthanfirmgrip.Alimphandshakeisregardedasagestureofhumilityandrespect.C:respectingreetingChineseoftenshowrespectbycallingoldprofessor,oldsir.Inaword,Chinesesocietydonottaboothewordold,theyevencomparewitheachotherwhoisolder.DifferentfromChina,thereisnooldinAmericansociety.Theytendtoreplaceoldagewithgoldenageorseniorcitizen.C:respectingreetingandintroducingSometimeswhenenteringaschool,ameetingorabanquet,Chineseclapasagreeting.Itiscustomarytoclapinreturn.Asoftclap,withyouhandshorizontaltothefloorisbest.Introductionsareusuallymadewithathirdparty.Itisconsideredunusualforapersontowalkuptoastrangerandintroducehimself.C:respectintimingShowingupontimeisregardedasanexpressionofrespecttootherpeople.Intheruralareastheserulesarelessrigidaspeoplearelesstiedtotheclockandoftenmorecloselytiedtoimmediatemattersaroundthem.C:respectinpresentinggiftsGiftsexchangedinbusinessandsocialsituationsincludefruit,pens,handkerchiefs,chocolates,whiskey,wine,Scotch,orpicturesfromyourhomecountryorcity.C:respectindevelopingconversationChineseareusedtoputtingthemostimportantpartattheendofconversation.Therefore,AmericanpeoplemayanxietywhentalkingtoChinese,fortheycannotcatchthemainideasafterafewminuteslater,andChinesemaythinkAmericanisnotpoliteforraisingrequirementsatfirst.C:respecttotheagedC:respectincontact-mannersC:respectincontact-theavoidanceofdirectnoC:respectincontact-playingdownC:respectincontact-eyecontactC:respectindrinkingmannersC:respectinancienttimesandspecialtimesC:respectinshakinghandsC:respectintimingC:respectinpresentinggiftsC:respectindevelopingconversationajuniorinrelationtoparentsandeldersaseniorinrelationtoyoungersiblings,students,andothers.seniorsreverence,respectdutiesofbenevolenceandconcernrelationshipsmutualequalrespectRespect;venerate;revere;esteem;benevolence;concernSelfrespect?friendship仁,Humaneness義,RighteousnessorJustice禮,ProprietyorEtiquette智,Knowledge信,Integr