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LOVEandMARRIAGEHelloeverybody,maybeitistooearlyforustotalkaboutmarriage,butwestillhavetherighttoputupouropinionsaboutloveandmarriage.Peopleoftensaythatthereisnoreasontolovesomeone，butIwanttoaskallofyouaquestion:excepttheloveofparentsforchild,everyonehere,whocanloveapersonfornothing?Orareyouwillingtolovesomeoneevenifyouwillgetnothing?Ofcauseyouwon’t.Sotheloveisconditioned，maybeyoudon’twanttogetanythingfromthepersonyoulove,butyoudesirehisorherlove,doyouthinkso?Sothisisthepremiseoflove.Soallofusarebeinglovedpurposefullybyothersandlovingotherspurposefully.Sincethereisnoorlesslovewithoutpurpose,wecan’texpecttherewillbeanyonetoloveusfornothing.Butwecanmakeourselvespossessiontheadvantagesifwewanttobelovedbytheotherorifwewanttoloveothersbetter.Andalsoatthesametime,ifyoulovesomeone,justforgetsomeofyourpurpose.Goodlovelikesthefeelingofwalkingingrassland;itmakesyourworldsowildandsobright.Badlovelikeawell,itcanonlymakeyourworldmoreandnarrower.Goodloveisthatyoucanseetheworldthroughsomeone;badloveisthatyouwillmisstheworldforoneperson.Thetrueloveisthatnomatterhowmuchdifferenceyouhaveandnomatterhowmanytemptaroundyouandnomatterhowtheworldoutsidechanges,youjustkeepgoingwiththepersonyouloveandyouwillneverthinkofbreakingupwitheachotherandyouwillbecomebraverandstrongerwithhimorher.Haveyoueverexperiencedone’spromisinganddidthepromisecometrue?Therearesomanythingswethoughtwewouldlovethemforever,buttheforeverpromisewasmadeatthetimewhenyouhavethestrongesthopetoholdthem.Soweshouldlearntotakepromiseasalittlepartoflove.Ifyougetitorifitcometrue,youwillbehappy,andifyoulostitorifitfailed,youwillbesadandthenyouwilllearnsomethingfromit,justdon’ttrytoaskthereasonwhythepromisedidbroken.Somaybemarriageisthebestkindofformofpromiseforwomen,butmostofmenthinkthatmarriageisthetombofloveandmarriagehasnorelationshipwithlove,butinmyopinion,ifthereisnomarriage,loveisjustalonelyandwanderingghost，andithasnoplacetoburryitself.Loveisthepremiseofmarriageandmarriageisthesublimateoflove.Formostofpeople,loveissweetandromantic,butmarriageisrealistic.Accordingtostatistics,thedivorcerateinChinaiskeeprisingnowadays,theaffectionbetweenhusbandandwifeiswakingandgoingbadingradually,thefamilybrokenupandleftallpainsandbadinfluencestochildren,perhapsthisisasocialphenomenon,wecan’trealizeitorchangeit.Infact,marriageissomethingthatyoufindsomeonewhowillneverleaveyoualoneandyouwillcompanyeachothertothroughtherestoflife,it’sthebesthappinessinthisworld.Idon’tknowwhysomepeoplejusttakemarriageasaburdenortreatitasajoke.Marriageisholyanditmattersthehappinessoftwopeople,youshouldmakesurethattheoneiswhomyouwantinthevastworldatthesecondyouarereadytobuildafamilywith.Inmygrowingyears,Ihavelearnedfrommyparentsthattheirlovehadbeingwashedbytimeandcommonlifeallthetime,butithadnevervanished.Oncontrary,theycaremoreabouteachotherinhealthandmoodandinmanyotheraspects.Maybetheyhadcomplained,buttheyhadneversuspectedtheirmarriageandtheirownchoices,theyhadneversuspectedtheirlove.Theirmarriagehadbecomenotonlysomethingaboutmoralanddutybutalsoakindofdeepestrelationshipandlove.SoIthinkthatmarriageneedstobeplowingandweeding,weshouldlearntounderstand,respect,andcherish.Ifyourmarriagewillnotdefeatedbythereality,thenyourlovewilllastforeverandwhenbothofyoubecomeoldhandinhand,youwillfindthatallthehardshipsandfrustrationsaresweetandromantic.Thankyou!