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Unit3BorntoWinBorntoWinYoucannotteachamananything.Youcanonlyhelphimdiscoveritwithinhimself.—Galileo[1]Eachhumanbeingisbornassomethingunique,somethingthatneverexistedbefore.Eachpersonisbornwithwhatheneedstowinatlife.Anormalpersoncansee,hear,touch,taste,andthinkforhimself.Eachhashisownuniquepotentials—hiscapabilitiesandlimitations.Eachcanbeanimportant,thinking,aware,andcreativelyproductivepersoninhisownright—awinner.[2]Thewords“winner”and“loser”havemanymeanings.Whenwerefertoapersonasawinner,wedonotmeanonewhodefeatstheotherpersonbydominatingandmakinghimlose.Insteadawinnerisonewhorespondsgenuinelybybeingtrustworthyandresponsive,bothasanindividualandasamemberofasociety.Aloserisonewhofailstorespondgenuinely.[3]Fewpeoplearewinnersorlosersallthetime.It'samatterofdegree.However,onceapersonhasthecapacitytobeawinner,hischancesaregreaterforbecomingevenmoreso…[4]Achievementisnotthemostimportantthingforwinners;genuinenessis.Thegenuinepersonrealizeshisownuniquenessandappreciatestheuniquenessofothers.[5]Awinnerisnotafraidtodohisownthinkingandtousehisownknowledge.Hecanseparatefactsfromopinionanddoesn'tpretendtohavealltheanswers.Helistenstoothers,evaluateswhattheysay,butcomestohisownconclusions.[6]Awinnerisflexible.Hedoesnothavetorespondinknown,rigidways.Hecanchangehisplanswhenthesituationcallsforit.Awinnerhasaloveforlife.Heenjoyswork,play,food,otherpeople,andtheworldofnature.Withoutguiltheenjoyshisownaccomplishments.Withoutenvyheenjoystheaccomplishmentsofothers.[7]Awinnercaresabouttheworldanditspeople.Heisnotseparatedfromthegeneralproblemsofsociety.Hetriestoimprovethequalityoflife.Eveninthefaceofnationalandinternationaldifficulty,hedoesnotseehimselfashelpless.Hedoeswhathecantomaketheworldabetterplace.[8]Althoughpeopleareborntowin,theyarealsoborntotallydependentontheirenvironment.Winnerssuccessfullymakethechangefromdependencetoindependence.Losersdonot.Somewherealongthelinelosersbegintoavoidbecomingindependent.Thisusuallybeginsinchildhood.Poornutrition,cruelty,unhappyrelationships,disease,continuingdisappointments,andinadequatephysicalcareareamongthemanyexperiencesthatcontributetomakingpeoplelosers.[9]Aloserisheldbackbyhislowcapacitytoappropriatelyexpresshimselfthroughafullrangeofpossiblebehavior.Hemaybeunawareofotherchoicesforhislifeifthepathhechoosesgoesnowhere.Heisafraidtotrynewthings.Herepeatsnotonlyhisownmistakesandoftenrepeatsthoseofhisfamilyandculture.[10]Aloserhasdifficultygivingandreceivinglove.Hedoesnotenterintoclose,honest,directrelationshipswithothers.Instead,hetriestomanipulatethemintolivinguptohisexpectationsandchannelshisenergiesintolivinguptotheirexpectations.生而成功任何事都不可能由别人来教你，只能在别人的帮助下靠自己去发现。-----伽利略1每个人生来都是独特的，与众不同的。每个人天生具有要在生活中赢得成功的能力。每个正常人都能够听、读、触摸、品尝，并且思考自己的事情。每个人都要自己特有的潜在性——能力和局限性。每个人都能凭自己的本事成为举足轻重、会思考、明事理、创造性成果颇多的人——一个成功的人。2“成功者”和“失败者”这两个词有多种意思。当我们把一个人称作成功者时，我们所指的并不是那种通过优势控制他人、令其失败而获得成功的人。而是一个作出真诚回应的人，无论是作为个体或是社会的成员他都值得信赖、行动迅速。失败者是一个未能作出真诚回应的人。3很少有人是绝对的成功者或失败者。这（失败）只是一个程度问题。然而，当一个人具备了成为成功者的能力时，（他）经常获得成功的可能性就会更大。4对成功者来说成就不是最重要的；最重要的是真诚。真诚的人知道自己的独特之处，也赞赏他人的这一特点。5成功者是不怕独立思考并运用自己的知识的。他能把客观事实与主观意见区分开来，而且不会装作能解决一切问题。他倾诉他人、评价他们说的话，却能得出自己的结论。6成功者能灵活变通。他遇事不会采用已有的、刻板的方式行事。他能根据形势的需要改变自己的计划。成功者热爱生活。他乐于工作、喜爱游玩、享受美食、欣赏他人和自然带来的乐趣。他心安理得地从自己的成就中享受乐趣。（他）也毫无妒忌地欣赏他人的成绩。7成功者关心天下、关爱世人。他关注社会上普遍存在的问题。他努力提高生活质量。即使面对国内和国际上的难题，他也不会认为自己是无能为力的。他尽己所能，使世界变得更美好。8即使人们生来注定会成功，但也是生来就要完全依赖于周围环境的。成功者顺利地完成从依赖到独立的转变。失败者则没有做到这一点。在这一过程中的某个时候失败者开始回避独立。这种情况通常始于童年时期。营养不良、非人道待遇、不愉快的人际关系、疾病、长期的失望，以及身体护理不足等经历都会促使人们成为失败者。9失败者不善于通过一系列可能采取的作为来恰当地展现自己，这阻碍了他获取成功。如果他所选择的生活道路毫无前途的话，他可能不知道对自己的生活还可以有其他选择。他不敢尝试新食物。他不仅重复自身的错误而且常常重复自己家庭和文化群体的错误。10一个失败者很难去爱别人，也很难得到别人的爱。他不知道和家人建立亲密、真诚、直接的关系。相反，他试图使别人按照他的期望生活，也努力使自己按他人的期望生活。BetterLatethanNever[1]Hewaslyingthereinthegrass,hidingandthinking.[2]Hehadstudiedthelittlegirl'shabits.Heknewshewouldcomeoutsidehergrandfather'shousemid-afternoontoplay.[3]Hehatedhimselfforthis.[4]Inhiswholemiserablelifehe'dneverconsideredanythingsocallousaskidnapping.[5]Yetherehewas,lyinginthegrass,hiddenbytreesfromthehouse,waitingforaninnocent,red-haired,two-year-oldgirltocomewithinreach.[6]Itwasalongwait;therewastimetothink.[7]MaybeallhislifeHarlanhadbeenintoomuchofahurry.[8]HewasfivewhenhisHoosierfarmerfatherhaddied.[9]AtfourteenhedroppedoutofGreenwoodSchoolandhittheroad.[10]Hetriedoddjobsasafarmhand,hatedit.[11]Triedbeingabusconductorandhatedthat.12]AtsixteenheliedabouthisageandjoinedtheArmy—andhatedthat,too.Whenhisone-yearenlistmentwasupheheadedforAlabama[N],triedblacksmithingandfailed.[13]HebecamearailroadlocomotivefiremanwiththeSouthernRailroad.Helikedthat.Figuredmaybehehadfoundhimself.[14]Ateighteenhegotmarried,andwithinmonths,wouldn'tyouknowsheannouncedshewaspregnantthedayheannouncedhe'dbeenfiredagain?[15]Then,oneday,whilehewasoutjobhunting,hisyoungwifegaveawayalltheirpossessionsandwenthometoherparents.[16]Thencamethedepression.[17]Harlancouldn'twinforlosing,astheysaid.[18]Hereallytried.[19]Once,whileworkingatasuccessionofrailroadjobs,hetriedstudyinglawbycorrespondence.[20]Buthedroppedoutofthat,too.[21]Hetriedsellinginsurance,sellingt