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Interculturalcommunication姓名：董美辰学号：20102237学院：数学与统计学院专业：统计学（金融与精算方向）CulturalDifferencesofDatingbetweenChinaandAmerica1CulturalDifferencesofDatingbetweenChinaandAmericaThesisstatement：ThispaperisintendedtomakeacomparisonaboutthedatingbetweenChineseandAmericantoseetheirdifferencesandsimilarities.Theillustrationofdatingwouldmainlycontaintwoparts:theactionsandthethoughtsandtheculturalreasonsandrevelationwillbeanalyzedfinally.Outline：1.Introduction2.ComparisonbetweenChineseandAmericandating2.1Similarities2.2Differences2.2.1Behaviours2.2.2Activities2.2.3PurposeandAttitude3.ReasonsfordifferentbehaviorsandattitudesbetweenChinaandAmerica3.1religiousandtraditionalvalues3.2relationshipwithmarriage3.3expressingways4.Revelation5.ConclusionReferenceCulturalDifferencesofDatingbetweenChinaandAmerica2CulturalDifferencesofDatingbetweenChinaandAmerica1.IntroductionAsstartpointofthepathtowardsmarriage,thefunctionandmeaningofdatingisobviouslyveryimportant.Accordingly,ifwewanttohaveabetterandcomprehensiveunderstandingofthedifferentviewsonmarriagebetweenAmericanandChinese,itisnecessarytoanalyzethedifferenceindatingcustomsbetweenpeoplefromthetwocountries.Asweknow,datingincludesalltheactivitiesthatmenandwomendotogetherforhavingabetterunderstandingofeachotheranddevelopingafurtherrelationship.Takeninthissense,itisthesameforeveryoneovertheworld.However,duetothegreatdifferencebetweenAmericanandChineseinculture,traditionandbelief,peopleinAmericaandthoseinChinahavedifferentcustomsindating.Consideringtheabove,I'dliketoillustratethetopicintwomainaspects:thebehaviorsandthethoughts.Thatjustmatchalongwithhuman'sbodyandsoul.Theactionsofbodywillbedemonstratedbythebehaviorsandtheactivities,whilethesoulswillbeelaboratedbythepurposeandattitude.Thus,weshallunderstandbothculturesandmanagethedatinginourlifeinabetterway.2.ComparisonbetweenChineseandAmericandating2.1SimilaritiesAsacriticalstepfortwopeople'srelationship,datingisawayforthemtogetabetterunderstandingofeachother.Peoplearealwayschangingandgrowing.Theyhaveadateaimingtohaveafurtherrelationshipwiththeother.Also,datingrelatestoalltheromanticthingsandlovelymemories.Inevitably,sometimescouplesmayquarrelandevenbreakupwhentheyaredating.Soalldatesshowthischaracter:uncertainty.Theaffairdevelopsunpredictableasitdependsonthefeelingsoftwopeople.Inaddition,festivalscelebratingtheloveexistinbothcountries.ChinesehavetheTanabataDayandAmericanshavetheValentine'sDay.Peopledateonthespecialdaytoshowtheirlovetotheirhalfapples.2.2DifferencesDifferencesarereflectedbytheactionsofbodyandrootedintheirsouls.Theactionsofbodywillbedemonstratedbythebehaviorsandtheactivities,whilethesoulswillbeelaboratedbythepurposeandattitude.2.2.1BehavioursThebehaviorsvariesinthetwocountries.Sohere,threetypicallyspecificcaseswillbeillustratedtoexplainit.Firstly,howmanydatesshallasinglehave?InAmerica,itisnormalforpeopletohaveadatewithdifferentpersonsoftheoppositesexinaperiod.ButitishardtoimaginethatthisscenewillappearinChina.Platooncesaid,MaybeGodwantsustomeetafewwrongpeoplebeforemeetingtherightone,sothatwhenwefinallymeettheperson,wewillknowhowtobegrateful.Thishasbecomeawidelyacceptedwesternthought.SoinAmericans'opinion,onlybycomingintocontactwithmanypersonswhohavedifferentcharacter,differenthobbiesanddifferentbackgrounds,sheorhecangetthemanorwomanwhoisthemostsuitableone.MostofChinesepeopleagreewiththatviewpoint,buttheystillhaveadatewithonlyonepersoninaperiod,followingtheircustomsandtraditions.ForChinese,datingwithonlyonepersonshowstheirsincerityandrespecttoeachother.ThiscustomrelatestoChinesetraditionalculture,whichCulturalDifferencesofDatingbetweenChinaandAmerica3emphasizestherespecttoothers.ItwillprovokecriticisminChinaifonedateswithdifferentmenorwomeninthesameperiod.However,asabove,itisnormalinAmerica.Secondly,whoismoreactivewhendating?Emphasizingpunctuality,mostAmericanwillarrivetheappointedplaceontime.Thewomanmaycallordirectlyinvitethemanifshehasagoodfeelingforhim.Womenareasactiveasmen.Onthecontrary,Chinesewomenaretooshytodothat.Theyprefertoshowthemissishappearance,neverbeingtooactive.Sometimestheyareallowedtobealittlelateforthedatingandthemenseldomgetangryforthat.Sorelatively,menaremoreactive.Thirdly,whosetreat?Loversusuallyhavedinnerandotherentertainmentstogether.AmericanstendtogoDutchwhentheyhaveadate.Ononehand,itreflectstheindependencewhichisapartofAmericans'characters.Ontheotherhand,italsodependontheirviewandattitudetowardsdating.Sincethedatingisjustakindofsocialactivities,theycertainlydoaswellasdaily.AndinAmerica,womendon'twantspecialtreatment,goingDutchisagoodwaytoavoidoffence.It'sobviousthatChinesepeopleholddifferentopinions.UndertheinfluenceofChinesetraditionalculture,peopleinChina,especiallymen,tendtopayforthebillsafterdating.Bythisaction,menwanttoshowtheirgoodmannersandrespecttowomen.DifferentfromAmericanwomen,Chinesewomendon'tregardthisactionaspeculiarityandmostofthemthinkitasdeserved.Theyevenappreciatethisactioncalledmalechauvinism.2.2.2ActivitiesSincethedatingisacommonwayofsocialactivities,itleadstoainsideworldofaperso