Caring-for-Your-Introvert原文及翻译

CaringforYourIntrovertbyJonathanRauch1、Doyouknowsomeonewhoneedshoursaloneeveryday?Wholovesquietconversationsaboutfeelingsorideas,andcangiveadynamitepresentationtoabigaudience,butseemsawkwardingroupsandmaladroitatsmalltalk?Whohastobedraggedtopartiesandthenneedstherestofthedaytorecuperate?Whogrowlsorscowlsorgruntsorwinceswhenaccostedwithpleasantriesbypeoplewhoarejusttryingtobenice?2、Ifso,doyoutellthispersonheistooserious,oraskifheisokay?Regardhimasaloof,arrogant,rude?Redoubleyoureffortstodrawhimout?3、Ifyouansweredyestothesequestions,chancesarethatyouhaveanintrovertonyourhands—andthatyouaren'tcaringforhimproperly.Sciencehaslearnedagooddealinrecentyearsaboutthehabitsandrequirementsofintroverts.Ithasevenlearned,bymeansofbrainscans,thatintrovertsprocessinformationdifferentlyfromotherpeople(Iamnotmakingthisup).Ifyouarebehindthecurveonthisimportantmatter,bereassuredthatyouarenotalone.Introvertsmaybecommon,buttheyarealsoamongthemostmisunderstoodandaggrievedgroupsinAmerica,possiblytheworld.4、Iknow.MynameisJonathan,andIamanintrovert.5、Oh,foryearsIdeniedit.Afterall,Ihavegoodsocialskills.Iamnotmoroseormisanthropic.Usually.Iamfarfromshy.Ilovelongconversationsthatexploreintimatethoughtsorpassionateinterests.ButatlastIhaveself-identifiedandcomeouttomyfriendsandcolleagues.Indoingso,Ihavefoundmyselfliberatedfromanynumberofdamagingmisconceptionsandstereotypes.NowIamheretotellyouwhatyouneedtoknowinordertorespondsensitivelyandsupportivelytoyourownintrovertedfamilymembers,friends,andcolleagues.Remember,someoneyouknow,respect,andinteractwitheverydayisanintrovert,andyouareprobablydrivingthispersonnuts.Itpaystolearnthewarningsigns.6、Whatisintroversion?Initsmodernsense,theconceptgoesbacktothe1920sandthepsychologistCarlJung.Todayitisamainstayofpersonalitytests,includingthewidelyusedMyers-BriggsTypeIndicator.Introvertsarenotnecessarilyshy.Shypeopleareanxiousorfrightenedorself-excoriatinginsocialsettings;introvertsgenerallyarenot.Introvertsarealsonotmisanthropic,thoughsomeofusdogoalongwithSartreasfarastosayHellisotherpeopleatbreakfast.Rather,introvertsarepeoplewhofindotherpeopletiring.7、Extrovertsareenergizedbypeople,andwiltorfadewhenalone.Theyoftenseemboredbythemselves,inbothsensesoftheexpression.Leaveanextrovertalonefortwominutesandhewillreachforhiscellphone.Incontrast,afteranhourortwoofbeingsociallyon,weintrovertsneedtoturnoffandrecharge.Myownformulaisroughlytwohoursaloneforeveryhourofsocializing.Thisisn'tantisocial.Itisn'tasignofdepression.Itdoesnotcallformedication.Forintroverts,tobealonewithourthoughtsisasrestorativeassleeping,asnourishingaseating.Ourmotto:I'mokay,you'reokay—insmalldoses.8、Howmanypeopleareintroverts?Iperformedexhaustiveresearchonthisquestion,intheformofaquickGooglesearch.Theanswer:About25percent.Or:Justunderhalf.Or—myfavorite—aminorityintheregularpopulationbutamajorityinthegiftedpopulation.9、Areintrovertsmisunderstood?Wildly.That,itappears,isourlotinlife.Itisverydifficultforanextroverttounderstandanintrovert,writetheeducationexpertsJillD.BurrussandLisaKaenzig.(Theyarealsothesourceofthequotationinthepreviousparagraph.)Extrovertsareeasyforintrovertstounderstand,becauseextrovertsspendsomuchoftheirtimeworkingoutwhotheyareinvoluble,andfrequentlyinescapable,interactionwithotherpeople.Theyareasinscrutableaspuppydogs.Butthestreetdoesnotrunbothways.10、Extrovertshavelittleornograspofintroversion.Theyassumethatcompany,especiallytheirown,isalwayswelcome.Theycannotimaginewhysomeonewouldneedtobealone;indeed,theyoftentakeumbrageatthesuggestion.AsoftenasIhavetriedtoexplainthemattertoextroverts,Ihaveneversensedthatanyofthemreallyunderstood.Theylistenforamomentandthengobacktobarkingandyipping.11、Areintrovertsoppressed?Iwouldhavetosayso.Foronething,extrovertsareoverrepresentedinpolitics,aprofessioninwhichonlythegarrulousarereallycomfortable.LookatGeorgeW.Bush.LookatBillClinton.Theyseemtocomefullytolifeonlyaroundotherpeople.Tothinkofthefewintrovertswhodidrisetothetopinpolitics—CalvinCoolidge,RichardNixon—ismerelytodrivehomethepoint.WiththepossibleexceptionofRonaldReagan,whosefabledaloofnessandprivatenesswereprobablysignsofadeepintrovertedstreak(manyactors,I'veread,areintroverts,andmanyintroverts,whensocializing,feellikeactors),introvertsarenotconsiderednaturalsinpolitics.Extrovertsthereforedominatepubliclife.Thisisapity.Ifweintrovertsrantheworld,itwouldnodoubtbeacalmer,saner,morepeacefulsortofplace.AsCoolidgeissupposedtohavesaid,Don'tyouknowthatfourfifthsofallourtroublesinthislifewoulddisappearifwewouldjustsitdownandkeepstill?(Heisalsosupposedtohavesaid,Ifyoudon'tsayanything,youwon'tbecalledontorepeatit.Theonlythingatrueintrovertdislikesmorethantalkingabouthimselfisrepeatinghimself.)12、Withtheirendlessappetitefortalkandattention,extrovertsalsodominatesociallife,sotheytendtosetexpectations.Inourextrovertistsociety,beingoutgoingisconsiderednormalandthereforedesirable,amarkofhappiness,confidence,leadership.Extrovertsareseenasbighearted,vibrant,warm,empathic.Peoplepersonisacompliment.Introvertsaredescribedwithwordslikeguarded,loner,rese