Diana & the Queen-戴安娜与女王

Diana&theQueen|戴安娜与女王TheQueenwasstunnedatthetragicnewswhenshewasawakenedintheearlyhoursofthemorning.WhileothersintheroyalfamilyhadlongsincegivenuponDiana,Elizabethhadheldsomefondnessandsympathyforherdaughter-in-law.ShesawDiana’sdeathasaterriblewaste.Crowdssurged2throughthestreetsofLondonmourningthePrincess.ItwaseasyforpeopletothinkofDianaonlyasaprincess,someonetotallyunliketherestofus.Butwithintheroyalfamilyshewasanall-toohumanrelative.Shedoted3onhersons,WilliamandHarry.ShelovedandfoughtwithPrinceCharles.Andshehadacomplicated4relationshipwiththeQueen,hermother-in-law.SheviewedtheQueenasamomandanoldwomanwhowasouttogether.Diana’smarriagehadnotbeenarranged,asshesaid,“ItwasCharlesandIwhodecidedonthemarriage.NottheQueen.Us.Nooneelse.”ButwithouttheQueen’snod,noproposal5wouldhavebeenmade.However,thePrincewasworried.“I’mterrifiedsometimesofmakingapromiseandthenperhapslivingtoregretit,”hesaid.Whenthequestioncame,itwasaquestionitself—“IfIweretoask,whatdoyouthinkyoumightsay?”Giggling6,Dianareplied,“Yeah,okay.”Charlesthentelephonedhismotherwiththenews.TheengagementwasannouncedonFebruary24,1981,andDianasoonmovedintoBuckinghamPalace.TheQueenbelievedherfuturedaughter-in-lawknewwhatwasexpectedofher,“ItrustthatDianawillfindlivingherelessofaburdenthanisexpected.”InfactDianahadnoideaofwhattoexpect—andfromthebeginningshefoundroyallifeanextraordinaryburden.SheswammostmorningsinthePalacepool,madeherselfbusywithweddingplans,andtookdanceandexerciseclasses.Therestoftimeshesimplysataround,boredandirritable7.Pent-up8andlonely,Dianabeganmakingherselfillintheseearlymonths,thefirstsignsofbulimia9.Severaltimesaday,shevisitedthekitchen,fillingabowlwithcornflakesandfruit,addingsugarandsoakingitallincream.Afterwardshewouldgotothebathroomandmakeherselfsick.Hermoodbecamechangeable,andCharlesdrewmuchofherfire.Why,sheasked,washenotspendingmoretimewithher?TheQueencontributed10Diana’sbehaviortoabadcaseof“nerves”,concludingthatsheneededtimetosettlein.Lefttostrugglethrough,Dianadidso,barely.AfteroneparticularlydifficulttimeinJune1981,whenthePrincewastraveling,shebrokedown.FollowingPrinceAndrew’s21stbirthdayparty,shegotintohercarat5:30a.m.anddrovefromLondontoherfamilyhome,overanhouraway.Shepouredoutherhearttoherfather—shewascallingofftheengagement.Itwasprobablyjustthepressure,advisedherfather,thingswouldgeteasieronceshewasmarried.BySundaynightDianawasbackinBuckinghamPalace,actingasifnothinghadhappened.Mostbridesgreatlyenjoythemselvesinthefirstweeksofmarriage.Instead,duringherhoneymoontripintheMediterranean,Dianabecameviolentlyillwithbulimia.ShehadbigfightsnowandthenwithCharles.Theyhadtogoback.ThePrincesentforadoctor,thefirstofmanywhowouldtrytohelp.“Alltheanalysts11andpsychiatrists12youcouldeverdreamofcameplodding13intosortmeout.”Dianarecalled.TheQueenseemedtohaveanaturalsympathyforDiana.ShewasunderstandingofDiana’sdifficulties.ForatimeDianasawtheQueen’ssupportasasourceofgreatcomfort.“Ihavethebestmother-in-lawintheworld,”sheoncesaid.ButtheQueen’skindnesscouldnotbridgethedistancebetweenDianaandCharles.Dianawasjustintoher20s,withzeroexperienceinromance.Charleshadseveralsignificantloveaffairsbehindhim.DianabegancallingatBuckinghamPalaceseekingguidance14fromhermother-in-lawandusuallyleftinalotbettermood.Atfirst,theQueenwaspatientoftheseunexpectedvisits.Intime,though,Elizabethcametofearthemeetings,becauseDianaoften“criednonstop.”TheJune1992publicationofthebestsellerDiana,HerTrueStorycameasashocktotheQueen.Itpaintedapictureofacoldroyalfamily.Althoughshewasnotquoteddirectly,itwasclearDianahelpedwiththebook.TheQueenknewwellhowunhappyherdaughter-in-lawwas,butneverimaginedDianawoulddosuchathing.Inmostfamilies,thisbehaviorwouldhavemeanttheimmediateendofthemarriage,buttheQueenorderedasix-monthcooling-offperiod.Charlesagreed.SodidDiana.YetasthePrincessincreasinglywentherownway—onceshequestionedonTVifCharleshadthemoral15charactertobeking—hermarriagecametoanend.DianaandCharlesweredivorced16in1996,afterhavingseparatedforaboutfouryears.Lessthanayearlater,shewasdead.Throughallofthis,Dianabroughttothepublicanattractingimage17ofbeautyandlove.Shehadarealsympathyfortheillandtroubled.Shecouldkneeltocomfortasickchildandlookasifshemeantit.That’swhythepublicneverstoppedadoring18her.ElizabethalsosawthegoodthatDianacoulddoforthemonarchy19.YetDianawastheonepersontheQueenneverlearnedtohandle.Shereactedbadlytocriticism—anyblamebytheQueenwastakenasanexampleofthewholefamily’sattackonher.NeitherpatiencenorthesilentdispleasureElizabethhadusedwithwithering20powermadeanyimpressiononDiana.Intheend,notknowingit,theQueenallowedDianatorunoutofcontrol.ThePrincess’spsychological21problems,andtheQueen’sstrictpropriety22,finallyendedtheirrelationship.MarryingintotheHouseofWindsortodayiscertainlynofairytale.Lookingbackonherchildren’sbrokenmarriages(Charles,PrincessAnneandPrinceAndrewhaveallgonethroughdivorce),theQueenwouldcometowonderifshehadfailedinherdutyasamother.Or,assheonceasked,“Wheredidwegowrong?”1997年8月31日晨，威尔士王妃黛安娜在巴黎香消玉殒。当时王妃和她的情人试图避开狗仔队的追逐，结果发生车祸。清早就被叫醒的女王被这个噩耗惊呆了。皇室其他成员早已对黛安娜绝望，她却一直疼