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GetConfidentNow!|搭建信心之塔！Showoffyourstyle.Evernoticehowsomeclothesjustmakeyoufeelmorelikeyourself...whileothersneverfeelquiteright?Maybeyoufeelshinierwhenwearingsparklyearrings,ormoreinchargesportingbootsthatmakeasatisfyingstomp.Whateveryouruniquestyle,wearatleastoneitemeachdaythatmakesyoufeelwonderful.Followthrough6.Theconceptissimple:ifyoucommittosomething,doit.Butsometimesitgetsalittletougherthanthat.Whatifafriendasksyoutodosomething,butforsomereasonyoudon’tthinkyou’llbeabletocomethrough?Behonestwithhim.Sayingnotoafriendisnevereasy,butit’sbetterthanmakingpromisesyoucan’tkeep.Bytheway,followingthroughisevenmoreimportantifthepersonyoumadeapromisetoisyou.Developyoutalents.Everyoneisgoodatsomething...what’syourspecialtalent?Maybeit’sfixingthings,ordesigningawesomeoutfits,orworkingonpuzzles.Maketimeeachweekforoneofyourtalents.It’llbeworthittohearyourselfplayasongontheguitarorfeelthethrillofplacingfirstataswimmeet.Andthebestpartofallisthatasyousharpenyourskills,yourconfidencewillgrow,too.Beanoptimist.Ifyourbestfriendsaysshe’llgiveyouacallaftergymnastics7butthendoesn’t,youmight:a)wonderwhyshe’smadatyou.b)figureshe’sprobablyjustexhaustedafterallthoseback-handsprings.Ifyoupickedb,congratulations!You’reanoptimist—someonewhotendstolookonthebrightsideinsteadofassumingtheworst.Negativethinkingcansap8yourconfidencebymakingyoudoubteverything—yourfriends,yourfamily,evenyourself!Ifyoufindyouroutlookcloudingover9,askyourselfifthere’sanyrealevidencethatsomethingiswrong.Isthereanyreasonyoushouldn’tassumethebest?Eveniftheanswerturnsouttobeyes(anditrarelywill!),you’remorelikelytosolveproblemssuccessfullywithapositiveattitude.Plugyourselfintoacause.Findyourhigherpurpose:Joinforceswithagroupororganizationdedicatedtosomethingyoubelievein.Whetheryou’revolunteeringatananimalshelter,teachingkidstoread,orwalkingtoraisemoneyformedicalcures,thestrengthofyourbeliefswillmakeyoulightupwithconfidence.Sowilllearningnewskillsandworkingwithnewpeople—allwhilemakingadifferenceyoucanbeproudof!Thinkbeforeyouspeak.Sometimesit’shardtoresistactingonimpulse—it’salmostliketryingnottoscratchanitch!Butlettingyourgut10reactionsruleyoucanbelikehavingathree-year-oldinyourheadmakingyourdecisions.Howtogetbackincontrol?Slowdown.Thenexttimeyoufeelthatpowerfulurgetosayordosomethingyou’renotsureissmart,takeafewmomentsofsilence(orslowlycountto10).Thenchooseyourwordscalmlyandcarefully.Surroundyourselfwithallies.Haveyoueverhadafriendwhomadeyouseeyourselfinawholenewlight?Maybeyouactedbolderandwittieraroundhim...ormaybehemadeyoufeelnervousandunsure.Eitherway,thepeopleyouletintoyourlifeareboundto11influenceyou—theycansinkyouwiththeirdoubtorliftyouupwiththeirsupport.Sohangoutwithfriendswhoadmireyouasmuchasyouadmirethem.Surroundyourselfwithsupporters!Fakeit.Yes,youreadthatright.Nomatterhowself-assured12youbecome,nohumanbeingfeelsconfidentallthetime.We’reboundtofacemoments—days,even—whenwelookinthemirrorandallweseeisazit13thesizeofCalifornia.Actually,thosearethetimeswhenit’smostimportanttowalktall14andkeepyourchinup15.Remindyourselfthatit’snormaltohavesomelowmoods.They’rejustmoods...andtheypass(thankgoodness!).Sotakeadeepbreathand...Onward!Whenyoufirststartbuildingupyourconfidence,itmightfeellikeyou’refakingitallthetime,butthat’sonlynatural.There’sevenanexpressionforit:“Fakeittillyoumakeit.”Theamazingtruthisthatactingconfidentcanmakeyoufeelconfident—andsocanthereactionsyougetfromotherpeople.Soevenifyouarefakingitatfirst,you’llsooninspireyourselftotherealthing.Onedayyou’llwakeupandrealizethatlittlebylittle,you’vedevelopedrealself-confidence.You’veturnedintothatgirlwho’sunshakeableandunstoppable.Sohey,confidentyou!Howdoesitfeel?!有备而来。你知道班上那个一脸茫然的家伙——他总是问：“呃，我们该做些什么呢？”不要成为他那样的人。相反，做一个胸有成竹的人。提前弄清楚那篇短文是否应该打印出来；你需要为野营准备什么；以及老师想要你们在中午之前完成哪些数学题。当你对这些细节或老师的期望懵懵懂懂时，每时每刻都可能演变成一场麻烦……所以，准备充分就可保持平常之心、掌握主动权。展示个性。你是否注意到有些衣服更适合你，有些衣服穿上去总感到不大对劲儿？也许你戴着闪亮的耳饰感觉更加光彩照人，也许你穿着运动靴重重踏下才觉得更胜券在握。无论你有哪种独具一格的风格，每天至少戴一件让你感觉心情大好的饰物。说到做到。这个概念简单明了：如果你答应做某事，就一定要做到。但有时真做起来会有些棘手。如果一位朋友要你做某事，而你出于某种原因认为自己不能做，怎么办？对他实话实说。对朋友说“不”不容易，但它总强过许下无法兑现的承诺。顺便说一句，如果你承诺的对象是你自己，那么说到做到就更加重要了。发掘潜能。每个人都有所擅长……你的特殊才能是什么？也许是修理东西，或设计精美的服装，或猜谜语。每周抽时间发掘一下你的才能。聆听自己在吉他上弹奏歌曲或感受自己在游泳大赛上折桂的兴奋之情，这都很值得一做。其中最妙之处在于：随着你的技能日益提高，你的信心也与日俱增。做个乐天派。如果你最要好的朋友说她做完体操后会给你打电话，可却没打，你会：a)疑心她在生你的气；b)觉得她可能只是做完后手翻后太累了。如果你选择了b，恭喜你！你是个乐天派——你通常会看到事物光明的一面而不会朝最坏的方面打算。消极的想法会让你怀疑一切——朋友、家人、甚至你自己，从而将你的信心消耗殆尽！如果你发现你的想法变得阴暗，就问问自己是否真有什么事出了问题。有理由让你不朝最好的方面去想问题吗？即使答案是肯定的（这种情况微乎其微！），你用乐观的态度也更有助于顺利地解决问题。投身于某项事业。寻求更高的目标：参加到团体或组织中去，共同致力于追求你所信仰的事业。无论你是在动物收养所做自愿者，还是教小孩子读书识字，还是为医疗救助奔走募资，信仰的力量将点燃你的自信。学习新技能、与新结识的人合作——这一切让你拥有一个你为之自豪的人生的同时，也让你更加自信。三思而行。有时候真的很难控制住冲动——这就像忍着不去挠痒！但是让你的本能反应支配你，就像让一个3岁的小孩在替你作决定。如何恢复自控力呢？慢慢来。下次当你感到忍不住要说或做你不确定是否明智的事时，先沉默一会儿（或慢慢从1数到10），然后再理智谨慎地选择你的措辞。与你的支持者为伍。你有过这样的朋友吗？他能让你以全新的眼光看待你自己；也许有他在身边，你的行为会更加大胆机智……也许他让你感到紧张、毫无自信。不管怎样，你允许走进你生活的人一定会影响你——他们的怀疑能让你一蹶不振，他们的支持能让你兴致高昂。所以要与那些你欣赏他们、他们也同样欣赏你的朋友交往。与你的支持者为伍！佯装自信。是的，你没念错。不管你多有自信，没人会自始至终感到信心十足。我们一定会面临这样的时刻——甚至数天——当照镜子时，看到的只是一个像加州那么大的青春痘。其实这样的时刻，挺直腰杆、毫不气馁才至关重要。提醒自己，情绪低落再正常不过。它们只是一些情绪……最终会过去（谢天谢地！）。所以深呼吸，然后……继续前行！当你刚开始