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1020DirectionsYouaregoingtoreadapassagewith10statementsattachedtoit.Eachstatementcontainsinformationgiveninoneoftheparagraphs.Identifytheparagraphfromwhichtheinformationisderived.Youmaychooseaparagraphmorethanonce.Eachparagraphismarkedwithaletter.ProactiveStrategiestoBuildaSocialLifeA)Alotofpeoplebelievethatdevelopingasociallifeissomethingthatshouldjusthappenanddevelopnaturally,withoutyouneedingtodoanything.Idisagree.Ithinkthatwhilethiscanhappenforsomefolks,incertainstagesoftheirlife,itsnotalwaysthecase,whichiswhymanyofustodaylackafulfillingsociallife.Ifyoureincollegewhereyougettohangaroundlotsofotherpeopleandyourenaturallyasocialperson,yoursocialcirclewilldeveloponitsown.Butifyoureanaccountantworkingincubiclealldayandyourekindofshyanddontgooutmuch,yoursociallifemaybeseriouslydeficient.B)Inmyview,buildingasocialliferequiresthesameactiveandstrategicapproachthatmakingmoneyorbuildingacareerrequires.Theapproachisbasedonsettinggoalsandactingonthem.Comingfromthisangle,Iwanttoshowyousomeproactive()strategiestobuildasociallife.C)Afulfillingsociallifelooksdifferentlyfordifferentpeople.Someofusneedlotsoffriendsandalargesocialcircle.Someofusaremorefondofhavingjustafewfriends,butwhoareveryclosetous.Andsomepreferamixofthetwo.Whatisyourpreference?Doyouknow?Takesometimetothinkaboutthisandvisualizewhatyouridealsocialcirclewouldlooklike.D)Anotheraspecttothinkaboutiswhatkindofpeopleyouwantinyoursocialcircle.Doyoupreferpeoplewhoareartistic,orpeoplewhoaretech-oriented?Peoplewhoareoutdoorsyorprefertobeindoors?Usually,youwillgetalongbestwithindividualswhoaresimilartoyou.SoIadviseyoutoconsideryourdominanttraitsandconsciouslydecidewhichofthesetraitsareimportantforyoutofindinothers.Ifyouknowwhatkindofpeopleyouwantinyourlife,youremuchmorelikelytofindthem.E)Onceyouknowhowmanyandwhatkindoffriendsyourelookingfor,itstimetotakeactioninordertomeetthem.Thismayseemobvious,butitssomethingmanyofusignore:Ifyoujustwaitforotherstocometoyou,youllneverbuildasocialcircle.Youmusthavetheinitiativeandgotothem.F)Myrecommendationhereistothinkaboutactivitieswhereyouarelikelytomeetpeopleyoudenjoyinteractingwith,andgetinvolvedinafewofthem.Forinstance,youmaytakeaclassonatopicyoureinterestedin.Youmayvolunteerforacharityorganizationorjoinsomesortofclub.Evenifyoudonthaveanyfriendswhatsoeveratthispoint,youcanapplythisstrategy.Youcangetinvolvedinsuchactivitiesallbyyourself,andyoullmeetothersthere.G)Inusingthisstrategy,theInternetisyourfriend.Youcandiscoverallsortsofclasses,socialevents,clubsandorganizationsnearyouonline.Butkeepinmindthatthisisonlythefirststep.Thenyouneedtoactuallygetoutofthehouse,gothereandparticipate.H)Soyouattendatrainingprogramon,letssay,urbanphotography.Therearelotsofotherpeoplethere.Whatdoyoudo?Ingeneral,thepassiveapproachtendstoprevail.Manyofusjustsitarounddoingnothingandexpectotherstocometalktous,askusquestions,andbechatty.Andthismayhappen,oritmaynot.OnethingImcertainof,though,isthatitsnotthebestapproach.Youwanttobefriendlyfirst.Betheonetobreaktheice.I)Walkuptootherpeopleandintroduceyourselftothem.Thenstartchattingwiththem.Forexample,askthemhowtheyfoundoutabouttheevent,howlongtheyvebeeninterestedinurbanphotography,changefromthereintoothertopics,andiftheyseemtoenjoytalkingtoyou(whichtheyalmostalwayswill),keeptheconversationgoing.Doingthismaynotbeeasyatfirst,especiallyifyourenotusedtobeingthisoutgoing,butitssomethingyougetusedtowithpractice.Thetrickisnottolethesitancypreventyoufrombeingsocial.AndIcantellfromexperiencethatifyouaresocialandfriendlywithnewpeoplefirst,theyllloveyouforit.J)Ifyourebuildinganewsociallifefromscratch,thebeginningisalwaysthehardestpart.However,onceyouvemetafewpeople,itgetsaloteasierbecauseyoucanthenmakeuseofthemtomeetevenmorepeople.Youcanthenmeetsomeoftheirfriendsandacquaintances,andexpandyoursocialcirclefurther.K)Again,aproactiveapproachworksmiracles.Letyourfriendsknowthatyoureinterestedinmeetingnewpeopleandyoudlovetobeintroducedtootherpeopletheyknow.Iftheyindeedareyourfriends,theylllovetohelpyouout.Theymayinviteyoutocomewiththemtopartiestheygoto,theymaycallotherpeopletojoinyouwhenyougoout,andtheyllintroduceyoutonewpeople.Butyouhavetoletthemknowtheirhelpisdesired.L)Thebestpartisthatthebiggeryoursocialcirclebecomes,theeasieritistoemploythisstrategy.Yoursociallifewillexpandfasterandfaster,andyoullfinditprogressivelyeasiertofindpeopleyoumatchwellwith.M)Yoursociallifeiscompletelyinyourhands.Youcanhaveasociallifeasrich,connectedanddiverseasyouwant.Allyouneedistodoabitofsmartplanninginthisarea,andtakemassiveaction.Thereiscertainlynoshortageofpossibilitiestomeetpeopleandmakefriends.Itsuptoyoutocapitalizeonthem.Goodluck!1)Youwillmeetsomepeopleyouwouldliketointeractwithwhenyoutakepartinsomeactivities.F2)Peoplesideasofasatisfyingsociallifevaryfrompersontoperson.C3)Youcanenlargeyoursocialcirclebytakingadvantageofyourcurrentfriends.J4)Nowadaysmanypeoplelackahappyandsatisfyingsociallifebecausetheirsociallifedoesntalwaysdevelopnaturallyastheythink.A5)Youhavecompletecontroloveryoursociallifeandyoucanhaveafulfillingonebymakingplans